Christian Wedding with communion and alter call

First, it's altar. Second, take your question to your minister.

I've never been to a wedding ceremony that had communion with the exception of a full Catholic mass.

I can maybe see a communion, my cousin sang a couple worship songs at her wedding but I feel like an alter call would be too much. If I was a guest I'd be a little put off by that to be honest with you.

My husband and I took communion at our wedding but the guests did not. I don't think that an altar call would be appropriate for a wedding.

If it's really important to him, go for it, but do keep in mind that your guests who aren't religious or as religious as you are may be uncomfortable. I went to an intensely religious wedding once and I was super uncomfortable the entire time.

I think it'd be sweet for you guys to take communion together! I actually might discuss that with FH because I like the idea. But I wouldn't offer it to your guests. That'd make the ones who aren't Christian uncomfortable. A lot of my guests are Christian but I also have a good handful who aren't (like my MOH who is atheist) and I wouldn't want them to feel awkward. I also would skip the altar call. That seems a little weird for a wedding. Also maybe look into unity crosses instead of a unity candle! It's more expensive but I really love the sentiment and thought that might be something your FH would like.

Thank you.. Lauren G.! We did look into the unity cross and we both loved it, that's what we are going to do.

Hi Traci, we are doing the Unity Cross too. I don't think either are inappropriate for a wedding. Anyone who knows you should know FH works at a church, so obviously religion is important to you. I would love to attend a wedding with communion and an altar call. Do make sure your minister is okay with it ahead of time.

My cousin got married in August and had communion. it was really awkward for a lot of us, including myself who is catholic but currently not practicing. I would not want to attend a wedding like that again. less than half the guests got up to receive communion, and the others just sat and watched in silence.

We did our first communion as husband and wife. I think it's a statement of faith. Not everyone will be comfortable with that. So it's about whether you want to do communion. Altar call eh. I wouldn't do that for my wedding.

I would go for the communion but not the altar call. That is too much for me and I grew up in an extremely religious household and altar calls were a big deal at my church. I would take communion st your wedding (provided that it isn't a catholic communion and I can't) but I would be incredibly uncomfortable with an altar call because I think someone wanting to pray is a very personal thing and it would take away from your vows.

Don't do an altar call. I would be offended by an altar call at a wedding and I'm a Christian pastor. Communion I would only do it if it's an open communion table. If not skip it.

If you and FH feel strongly about taking communion, then do so. FH and I have chosen to do so even though it's relatively uncommon in a Methodist church. If you choose to do so during your ceremony, know that it's considered extremely offensive to not offer communion to your guests. It should be offered to none or all (guests obviously have the option of remaining seated or coming forward to receive). You and your (then) husband could always partake privately after the ceremony with just your pastor after the guests leave if you are nervous about having it as part of your service.

The altar call might be a bit much and probably unfamiliar to many people

I wouldn't do an altar call, and communion should be open to all if you do it. I am also a pastor but I think it's a little much unless EVERYONE in your group is into it.

Sorry, but what is an altar call? My traditional Protestant upbringing is showing. We are skipping communion for the very reasons PPs have mentioned, we don't want to make anyone uncomfortable.

We're doing communion together in place of a unity candle. I've actually been to several weddings where the couple did that and it was sweet.

Unity ceremony is fine, but IMO the other two should be left for worship, which is not appropriate for a wedding. Some people do communion (together, not whole assembly), but an altar call would not be a good idea.

I would speak with your priest/pastor and find out what's appropriate. But I think the two of you taking communion would be sweet. I would pass on the altar call though.

I think unless ALL of your guests are active in similar churches, an altar call (which I had to look up) would be REALLY uncomfortable. If I knew something like that were happening I would probably skip the ceremony (for reference I'm a non-actively practicing Catholic, raised Congregational).

Communion is more appropriate, but as a previous poster pointed out, the rules at every church (and for every member of a church) are different - so it may also be confusing and uncomfortable unless, again, everyone is a member of the same religion or they are generally practicing Christians. I like MrsSki's idea of doing communion PRIVATELY after the ceremony with just you two and the pastor.

I think people are generally comfortable enough with the idea of communion that if it's important to you and your religion you could go ahead with that - but know your crowd. If everyone will be sitting there awkwardly or all of your friends and family are Jewish/Muslim/Atheists maybe skip it.

Ok, I just looked up what an altar call is and it seems really inappropriate for a wedding. It would come across as trying to convert your guests of other faiths. Unity cross is fine, and I think communion would be fine if its just you two. If you want to extend it to guests, think about what the rules are for participation and how many of your guests are the appropriate faith/status/whatever to participate.