Christians Hosting a Wedding with Alcohol

I guess it’s a know your group thing, which you do very well. My whole mom’s side of the family is catholic and we love to drink! Nothing wrong with not drinking of course.

maybe as a compromise have one glass of wine for everyone with dinner? Then you can say your prayers and blessings and have alcohol if they wish. Maybe a bottle per table or something? Not sure on the logistics but I think it’s okay if you have just a wine option! Plus it’s not like you’re forcing anyone to have it, but are offering it to those who do not share the same views

Have it for the people that drink. I think it would only be hypocritical on his part if he drinks as well.

I’m Christian myself and I have being to different weddings and see it all. The only weddings I being to with very limited alcohol is the wedding of the daugther of a pastor and by 8 pm everyone was out. The family of the groom and friends do drink but felt very judge by those who don’t. Like you said is not a sin to drink and that’s a personal option on everyone.
Youre hosting a wedding, a party so you should cater for all people and all tastes. Just because you don’t like veggies that doesn’t mean you won’t have veggies or salad as part of food. Well same for alcohol.
I personally don’t understand the judgement behind it so I’ll sit down with fiancé and come up to an agreement.

If I was invited to a wedding without some form of alcohol there I’d probably not have as much fun and wouldn’t be as eager to attend, especially if I was traveling for the wedding and spend a lot of money to get there. If you don’t offer something for the guests that want to drink, you might be alienating a third of your friends or family, especially if they’re not Christian and it comes across that you/FH respect/honor(not sure the correct word I’m looking for) the wishes of the Christians who look down on drinking over the ones who want to drink. Not knowing you/your FH/families I think that would make me very uncomfortable as some who grew up Catholic but no longer practices religiously. Also, unless you already know your drinking guests only drink wine, I’d suggest offering another option too. I don’t drink wine and would appreciate options if I was invited to a wedding.

Me, my fiancé, and my whole family are Christians. We are having wine beer and 2 signature cocktails. God says not to get drunk on wine. So you’re not sinning and anyone who thinks you’re being “hypocritical” should read up on the word.
IMO this is between you and your fiancé. Based off the post it sounds like he cares too much what other people might say and think. The only people who would have something to say about it would be unbelievers who don’t know anything about our faith. Your FH should not let them dictate how he lives his life.

View Quoted Comment This!! And Nell and I dont usually agree on things but this she is spot on. Where in the world did it come from that drinking is a sin? People claim to follow G_DS word but really know very little about what it says.

Okay, according to John 2: 1-11, Jesus' first miracle was turning water into wine...at a wedding. Christians don't oppose drinking; some denominations oppose drinking.

We are Christians, but still having alcohol at our wedding. I don't feel like it's hypocritical, but I also don't think its the end of the world if you have a wedding without alcohol. Do what is best for you and your fiance.

Is your family against alcohol altogether? I don’t see this as a Christian vs nonchristian issues, I’ve been to plenty of church functions with alcohol. I grew up in the chi ch and will be having a religious ceremony, I also expect my pastor to drink with us at the reception. I would be a good host and provide beer and wine for your guests that drink.

I'm a Christian and I drink and will have alcohol at my wedding. Just wanted to say that, lol. However, I think you should just keep it simple and do a dry wedding if you and your FH and the majority of y'all's guests don't drink. Don't worry about the small percentage that does, they will be okay. I've been to dry weddings before, and everything was fine.

ERM Jesus literally made wine??

Also if you to do preach no alcohol then don't drink. Just because some of your guests are drinking does not mean you are a hypocrite

I would serve alcohol. I've been to probably 10 weddings in my life, and the only dry one was at a Mormon church. Every other one was either in a church or at least had a religious Christian ceremony and still served alcohol.

If it’s going to cause discomfort in your relationship, why don’t you hold the wedding earlier in the day with a luncheon reception? Those who do enjoy alcohol will probably not expect it, and it won’t be missed as much. That way, both you and your fiancé will be comfortable with the decision. I think this is more of a personal decision rather than a religious one.

My FHs grandparents are 100% against alcohol. So much so, that whenever FHs mom got married, she hid the alcohol until they left.
We’re having a full wine and beer bar with signature drinks. Some people might be mad at it, but they don’t have to drink and that’s less money you have to spend on them.
I’d definitely talk with your fiancé. It sounds like he cares more about what other people would think than he needs to. It’s a party, people like alcohol at parties. He doesn’t have to drink it if he doesn’t want to.

My FH and I are Christians as well and we are having absolutely no alcohol. I don’t think it’s bad to have alcohol at a wedding. I mean Jesus drank wine, it’s not hypocritical unless you get drunk. The reason we aren’t having any alcohol is because it costs extra and we have a tight budget. We also do not want anyone to get drunk at our wedding and people can get drunk off of just beer and wine if they drink enough.

I'm a Christian and the vast majority of the people in my life (and who attended our wedding) were Christian. We hosted an open bar with wine, liquor, and beer. Different denominations have different "rules" or guidelines on this but Christianity as a whole does not have a position. Most of the Christians I know drink alcohol, they just may not drink it to excess. I see no issues with hosting alcohol for your guests that would enjoy it.

I struggled with this decision a little also. I am a Christian and most of my moms side of the family is also. My dads side and my FH family are not and like to drink. I love a glass of wine. I knew it would be a little hassle, but ultimately I choose to go with a cash bar. If they want to partake that is fine they will pay for what they drink, and if they don't that is fine also. It is hard to accommodate everyone. Just talk it over with your love and you two together make the final decision.

This is so hard. My fiancé and I are both Christians and have no problems with having alcohol at a wedding. The majority of FH family does not believe in consuming alcohol at all. We are having a private ceremony. Those immediate family invited to our ceremony are ok if we toast and have alcholic beverages. We will have a reception at his family's church in the Spring with punch, finger sandwiches, and cake.

It sounds like you drink, right? If so, I would go ahead and serve it. If you were both staunchly opposed or abstain at all times, then the people around you would expect it, but if not, I feel like most will expect it to be served or would be surprised for it not to be. We are Christian, and even those that I know that don't drink are never really mad that it is present at a wedding. On the other hand, those that do are often pretty surprised if they find out they are at a dry wedding for the next couple hours

I believe you should have the option for those who would like a drink. My family, FH an I, are all Christians and are having an open bar. Jesus first miracle was turning water into wine at a wedding celebration at John 2: 1-10

I attended a dry wedding last summer, a friend who fiance was Youth Minister. They had many affluent ministers, pastors, and other clergymen. People kept mention that they had no alcohol. I even heard some say, they wouldn't have attended if they knew there would be no alcohol. Which I thought was a bit over the top comment. But apparently, having a wine option is nice.