Christians Hosting a Wedding with Alcohol

I don't think you're betraying your fiancee, I think you're trying to make your guests comfortable. MANY MANY christians have it at their weddings.

I personally would not serve alcohol at my wedding. I always thought it was okay to drink in Christianity, but not get tipsy/drunk...

How sad that people would not attend a ceremony of dear friends of the most important commitment of their lives and yet those blessed and favored with an invitation would be so selfish to say they wouldn't have attended if their need and desire for alcohol was not satisfied . It certainly says something about the addiction and hold and importance of alcohol over their lives and friends and ability to have a good time with friends ... more hold and treasure than their friendship and relationship .

I would suggest that you don't court , placate or include those types of friends. Find others that want to come to support --and feel honored to be included to witness this day . The decision can be the couples desire, but unselfishness might dictate that the decision could be based on the level or courtesy the couple wish to extend to those who are offended or hurt by alcohol or have a past where alcohol has hurt them or someone close to them , not to those need alcohol to be happy .

Yes, Why have it? it may offend those whose lives have been hurt by it , and those who drink can give 4 hours to do without .

If In doubt , the best course is dont. Defer to those conscience might be hurt, not to those who wouldnt. they can do without it for 4 hours and if they cant , they dont value your friendship enough . It isnt a matter of judging, Alcohol has hurt so many lives, many just dont want to be around it or people affected by it. People drink to change their emotions, not maybe to get drunk , but to change who they are, to relax because they need it to do that .... people should be able to do without it for a few hours of a life changing event, if there are those present who might have a conscience problem or an experience problem with it- it has hurt their lives in some way . That is the Scriptural principle that Paul said when he said you who are strong , defer to a weaker brother .. That is the unselfish position . But if you want it and need it to celebrate and having it is more important than not wishing to offend, then Id first pray and either rethink it, or dont invite those who might be offended. You are saying to them my having alcohol is more important that not hurting or offending you . Dont judge their hurt- they arent judging , they just believe it is wrong or not the best and it is a problem to them to be around the looser lips and conversation of those drinking because of the hurt it has caused them or their family , it is what it is , just defer if you can have that gracious spirit .Enjoy some toasts at your rehearsal or with your spouse later. I write this here, because it seems no one addresses this correctly ... or at least this option with the right attitude. It is "judging" to judge the condemn the one who doesnt drink and say they are judging. They arent usually . Having ones pirinciples is a complex issue, a needful one, and often involves life experiences that lead one to recognize, in alcohols issues, the problems it can and often causes .