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Dedicated November 2018

Church vs Venue Ceremony

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Jennifer, on March 8, 2018 at 9:00 PM

Ok so our wedding is in November 2018, and we still cannot decide on having a church ceremony or just a "venue" ceremony. Our venue and wedding planner are pretty much open to whatever we decide. The problem is, we're not the biggest religious couple meaning we don't really have a church we go to just church we occasionally go to with family. Also, would it be awful to have a church ceremony and the big party with an open bar for the reception? Is it morally wrong? Anyone else have trouble deciding on what type of ceremony to have? Maybe I'm just over thinking? ADVICE PLEASE!

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Dedicated November 2018
Jennifer · on March 9, 2018 at 10:58 AM
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it's all about being happy I guess...people will always say what they want good or bad, so you might as well be happy with what YOU want... it's YOUR WEDDING!
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Victorian Bride · on March 9, 2018 at 10:07 PM
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You have an excellent point!! 😊
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Victorian Bride · on March 9, 2018 at 10:13 PM
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I've had people asking us to elope instead of having the wedding WE want. So I definitely agree that each of us needs to have the wedding we want and surround ourselves with supportive people. I'm just so excited to be a bride. I wish nothing but the best to everyone!!
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Victorian Bride · on March 9, 2018 at 10:15 PM
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Welcome Olivia!! ❤ I just wrote my first post 10 days ago. Everyone is so nice, even if they don't agree. I love the forums.
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MaltedMilk · on March 10, 2018 at 10:32 PM
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Yes, just have the wedding you and Mr Groom want, not want others want you to have. We are having a civil service with zero mention of religion. My future MIL wants a minister but oh well.
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K-Aus · on March 11, 2018 at 10:11 AM
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She didn’t say she doesn’t believe in a religious ceremony, just that she doesn’t have a home church.

To the original poster, do what person feels right and try to tune out the ugly voices in your head telling you what you “should” do. This is your wedding. If you are not truly a believer and do not want religious language used, don’t get married in a church or use a pastor as an officiant. As a pastor, I tell my couples that a wedding service is a worship service- I can change language some but I cannot, with integrity, make it a completely secular service. I was not trained and educated to put together a secular service. On the other hand, if you are a Christian and want a church wedding, go for it!!

Just don’t “should” on yourself too much in making the decision.
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Mathi · on April 26, 2021 at 10:13 PM
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I am also debating a church vs hotel venue ceremony and have a similar wedding venue scenario (similar to yours earias) if I chose a church ceremony. I am considering a church ceremony where the church is about 45 min away from the airport (most guests will be from out of town). The reception banquet hall is 10 min away from the church, which is also 10 min away from a nearby hotel. May I ask how you worked out the transportation details?? Did you provide transportation?
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