My wedding is in early June, and we are keeping it strictly family only to limit the guest list AND limit fighting. When we tried to keep a small guest list that mixed family and friends, both sets of parents were extremely upset, fought over whose side gets more, etc to the point where it put a massive strain on my relationship with FH and our families. We came up with family only to limit this.
However, my mom is now asking to invite two very close family friends. Both are single women who have attended family functions, including major holidays, with my family since I was a child. Also both are severely ill--we expect that one of them will pass before I can have a larger celebration party, and the other is just in extremely poor health. One is my mother's age and the other is elderly. My mom called me sobbing because these two people won't be able to celebrate with me in any way if they aren't invited to the event. I don't want anyone to fault her for crying to me because I think it's part of the grieving process for her facing that they are going to pass, I don't think they are croc tears to manipilate me. But I also don't know how to handle this. I do love these two women, but I'm not particularly close to either, my parents are--they were part of my life as a child but I have since moved away.
Im afraid if we invite them, FMIL will demand to invite two friends of her own, and we are back to the whole issue we had before. Any advice? What would you do?
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