I was disappointed when I received a the "no" RSVP from a very close friend but gave her the benefit of the doubt. The conflict had to be something important, right? She also declined my bachelorette and bridal shower with no note, nothing. I called to reach out to her but never heard back.
Two days before my wedding, she texts "sorry to miss, I'm leaving for a trip to Europe the same day, you're probably busy so I don't expect a reply, have fun!" How could a friend of nearly 20 years be this nonchalant? I didn't respond because I was super busy and frankly I was just stunned. My wedding day came and went and it was wonderful but the absence of my friend was sorely felt.
I thought I'd get a call from her when she returned from abroad but weeks went by, and then months. I finally called her a few days ago to reconnect (life during the pandemic is a good conversation starter, no?). I was also hoping to learn more about her vacation. Was it planned before she got the save-the-date? Did she get the dates mixed up and the bookings were non-refundable? Was it a major family or work obligation? She offered nothing and when I gingerly brought the topic up, she coldly snapped "so what do you want me say?" I was shocked by her indifference and quickly changed the subject, fighting back tears.
Now I'm left feeling totally cast aside and forgotten. I'm trying to be mature and get over the fact she skipped the wedding day - that's over and in the past, nothing to be done about it. But I'm truly crushed by her insensitivity. How could she not recognize that I would be hurt? How can I move past this?
