Co-ed Wedding Shower

I think the general thinking of invite people who you are close to who live locally still applies except you'd be inviting the couple instead of just 1 person. If you want kids, you can have them. It's really up to you. The only real rule is that they have to be invited to the wedding.

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Thank you. We are closer with the one aunt/uncle set. But I am always so nervous about offending people.

And, yes, all the kiddos are invited to the wedding! So no issues there.

You can have kids. I would just go with people you’re close to and that are local. This is where you don’t have to invite the people who you invited to the wedding just out of obligation and what not

View Quoted Comment Yeah, it's really up to whoever is hosting. As long as all the people on the shower guest list are also on the wedding guest list, you aren't breaking any traditional etiquette rules. I actually had some people I wasn't as close to at my shower. My MIL's group of friends just all go to all the kids' weddings and showers. Since she's gone to all their kids showers, she wanted them at mine so I was like whatever 🤷‍♀️. I've met her friends a few times and they're nice people, and as I said, that's just how that friend group operates. I think it really depends on how your FH's family is. For my family, if there's a family event, you need to invite everyone even if you know they won't come. For some other families, it isn't an issue. I would just ask him if he wants that aunt and uncle at the shower since it's his shower too.

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Thank you! I just asked FH his take and he said to just invite both sets of aunt/uncle. It's only 5 more people (one has a kid) and he even said inviting one set and not the other would cause a problem.

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I just asked him and he was like "you gotta invite them, it'll be an issue if you don't" haha. My family is VERY similar, gotta invite everyone or no one. Thankfully my family is all out of state, so I don't have to worry about inviting ANYONE except my dad/his gf, and one very close family friend

Thank you so much, I appreciate the advice and insight!

I dont think there has to be any rules, its your party you can do whatever! My experience was that you will always have the few people (usually mom/grandma age) who think everything regarding weddings has to be traditional. My shower wasnt co-ed but I invited kids! And also had my fiance come for opening gifts cause I have always hated opening gifts in front of people lol it helped a lot.

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Thankfully (but also kinda not) pretty much everyone has taken a back seat with their input! I mean...except my mom about certain things. I'm really excited about the co-ed shower. Did you do any games or stuff like that? I'm not really interested in them- but I'm worried about there not being much to do.

View Quoted Comment We did the typical question games. Like who’s the better cook, driver, etc. which I have to be honest a lot of guys probably wouldnt be into those games, but you can get lawn games or board games meant for parties! Your shower honestly sounds way more fun than most Ive been to 😂😂

So. We did this, complete with kids!

It was super fun, and it made more sense for us to do a co-ed thing, because it takes two to get married, and I loathe the implication that I, the woman, am somehow in charge of the cooking/cleaning/whatever. DH cooks, he's Italian. We don't let me near the stove, I burn things. Like myself.

Anyway. Our BP worked together, they had some of the traditional games, but also allowed time for mingling/talking. It was also HP themed, so the kids were totally cool with it.

Probably the best was the newlywed game, where we had to answer questions about each other, and then our guests had to guess our answers, too. (...The most hilarious part to me was when my mom got stuff wrong, but I digress.)

In terms of guest list, we limited it to closest family and friends in the geographical area, since it's a casual party.

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Thank you! This sounds like the exact vibe we're going for.

How many did you invite? Currently our guest list is at 28 and this includes us, our bridal party, and close family.

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I think our final guest list was 30 or so.

Any bigger, and it gets unwieldy.