Coffee- Yay or Nay?

Will the bartender even allow that? Just pay for the coffee. How much can it be?

IMO, yes that would be tacky. How much could it really be for coffee and tea service? You might be able to go through your caterer instead of your bartending service for cheaper.

I don't think most places would let you just bring in a coffee pot. I might be wrong though.

If you are paying and you don't think people will drink it, I would just tell FMIL that you aren't having it.

I highly doubt they allow you to do that. I would just pay for the coffee.

Are your desserts through your caterer or another bakery? They may be able to add in coffee as a part of the dessert menu. That's what I'm doing, and it doesn't cost much to add that as a dessert beverage for guests.

You need coffee, or it's going to look like you forgot it. Why would your bartender be making it? What about your caterer?

They don't serve coffee along with your other soft drinks? I would say yes to having coffee a lot of the older people will drink it with dinner.

ETA: Please don't make it yourself, so tacky.

Coffee was an inclusion in almost all the vendors for venue/food...must be coffees popular in my area! I am having coffee but my MOH and I drink coffee anytime, any day! I vote FOR coffee.

The bartender is serving all drinks, we are not using a standard caterer. We are having our local favorite restaurant cater. We are only having a cake which is provided by a separate business. The hall will allow me to bring a coffee pot, they even have a kitchen.

Also, I asked the bartender...he is the one that said it would be very costly. I refuse to pay for something that will go to waste.

@Leah What a valid point.

Are you expecting guests to keep up on coffee?

It would be tacky. I really doubt your venue/bartender will allow that. I would pay for coffee or skip it all together

@Amy, will the caterer watch the pot and make more as needed? In that case you might be ok.

Maybe the bartender just doesn't want to make coffee...

Can you have the restaurant provide the coffee?

@CuteNickname, valid point! I will definitely ask!

Maybe a single cup coffee maker, like Keurig, is a good compromise? I think you can buy one for $100-200 plus supplies. It's not a good solution if everyone will be drinking coffee, but should work okay for just a few people.

Personally, i feel like it would be a waste of money for coffee that could very possibly go 80% unused....but i also agree that it might be a bit tacky to have an actual coffee pot. BUT in my very honest and humble opinion I dont see why a cute Keurig (maybe even one that matches your decor....keurig 2.0 they come in lots of colors...i have a red one and a turquoise one). with this option, there is no "making a fresh pot of coffee" and those very select few guests who wants it can go to the "coffee bar", pick a k pod, pop it in the machine and have coffee in 30 seconds. The only con to this is that you will have to refill the water reservoir often BUT depending on how few people will actually have coffee, you may not even have to do that. and have cute cups and a keurig carousel to hold all your different selections of coffee/hot cocoa/tea.

This is just MY OPINION...i am not here to argue, fight or go against anyone else's opinion(s). Happy wedding planning ladies! {insert pink and purple heart emoji here}

I wasn't aware that coffee was expected at a wedding...

We weren't even thinking of coffee until FMIL and FFIL addressed us about it. We are paying $500 extra on top of bar-tending services for them to provide all cups, straws, mixers etc. and that includes non alcoholic drinks (we can choose 4 options) so one of our options is coffee. While I thought no one would drink coffee once I brought it up to a few people who I thought would be like "yeah you don't need coffee" they surprised me by saying its a must at weddings. Especially because we are having a Friday evening wedding. You may think no one will have coffee (because I didn't) but I bet it will be missed if you don't have it.

@#MeetTheSmalls, having guests refill the reservoir is the same as having them brew another pot.

OP, will you have servers? If so, people will ask the servers for coffee. The servers should get it from the kitchen and deliver it to the guests.

If you're doing buffet style, you could have an insulated carafe with self service coffee, but make sure your bartender or caterer is keeping an eye on it. They should refill as needed from the hidden kitchen or bar coffee pot where they regularly brew more.