Coffee

I wouldn’t be concerned if coffee wasn’t available. That’s a big amount for coffee!

$5 p/person for coffee seems outrageous. Is it because the caterer has to bring in rental cups just for the coffee/tea? Speak to your venue and see what can be done. Frankly, if you can’t find an alternative, I would suck it up and pay for the coffee.

I have never had or seen anyone else have coffee at an evening wedding. Some may like it with dessert but 700 is ridiculous, I would just do without.

I would absolutely not pay that for coffee. No way. We are having a coffee bar at our wedding set up my the company we hired to do our bartending. It only cost us an additional $100 for this... $700 is outrageous. Look online and see if you can find a company that will provide a coffee bar for a much cheaper price tag.

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Honestly, I think you're right in saying it's outrageous. Our rental company is providing a thermos and all of the cups. The only thing the catering company has to do is brew the coffee. There is no way in heck I'm paying $700 for a couple of people to have coffee. And then an additional $150 to rent the cups and thermos.

And not to seem insensitive, but this is the day that's supposed to be about the marriage and love between myself and my FH. If someone is going to be upset, and if their experience of my wedding is ruined by the lack of coffee, I think it's safe to say that's on them. The lack of coffee isn't going to change the experience of my closest family, friends, or myself. If other guests want to judge us because we don't have any coffee, it's not even worth it.

@Denise @Chelsey and @forestwed thank you for your validation! This is exactly what me, FH, my mom and bridal party think. I'm just going to drop it and move on.

Skip the caterer's coffee. That price is outrageous. It would be cheaper to give $10 gift cards to Starbucks to the small number of guests who will want coffee.

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Haha! That is so true. Or offer some Postmates credit to have a cup delivered

I definitely don't think coffee is essential at an evening wedding. Give them good food and alcohol and guests will be fine! I've only been to one wedding that served coffee.

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Sounds like you just wanted validation, not an opinion, so why ask? Also sounds like someone hasn't had their morning coffee yet.

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That was super nice of you! Thanks for the attempt to translate my message! My assertiveness is not due to lack of coffee, it's due to lack of wanting to spend $700-900 for a few people who want to drink coffee. We've been so stressed through this catering journey, and I've just gotten to a point where I need to put my budget and needs ahead of offering one potentially insignificant beverage for a few people.

Thanks for your generous input.

I'm a coffee lover . But it's coffee should be like $1 per person.. I'd be annoyed .. I've never drank coffee at a wedding .. and I drink alot of coffee

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MrsRies&Love - I think what firstoneat56 meant is this: A lot (and I mean A LOT) of posters come to WW and say they want an opinion but already have their minds made up. You asked, "What would you do?" and people responded. Perhaps if you asked, legitimately: "Dang! Can you believe they want this much for coffee?" People, would have said "No way - that is too much!" I would have agreed, and I am a coffee with dessert person but I would not want a bride and groom paying $700 for coffee, either!!! If I am putting words into the mouth of firstoneat56, I apologize. There has been a rash of posts in this vein lately. So in response to your original question: Don't pay for the coffee. Can you find another vendor that may do it? Like Dunn Brothers, Caribou or Starbucks? They can bring the coffee....and charge less than $700!

I guess this is a know your crowd thing. Everyone in our family/friends group drinks coffee at weddings- day or night. You better believe that people would talk if it wasn’t available. I forget what coffee/tea cost for our wedding but I’m almost positive it was $3pp.

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Thanks for the feedback. I honestly am curious what others would do. I didn't know if I was out of line with thinking this was a high quote, if my lack of coffee-drinking at wedding experience was not the norm (I've never sought out coffee or even noticed it was there), or if this was just what people paid for coffee. And when the first few responses came in and said "that's ridiculous" - that's when I realized that my gut reaction was right.

I understand that a lot of posters come with their mind made up already, and that's fine with me if they're just looking for validation. If they don't take my advice or don't appreciate my feedback, that's totally fine. I recognize that I'm 100% responsible for my feelings, and then just leave it alone. I expect the same for those who post on my threads. We're all here for some wedding help!

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I am a coffee drinker, so is most of my family, so I would address it had on and say, "Really? Can we work something out?" as my circle loves coffee. I bring a few packets of instant (boos from the crowd, I know) just to ensure coffee with dessert. But I would not complain about the bride/groom, either.

It IS a high quote. $700 is A LOT of money for anyone.

Keep us posted! Thank you for taking feedback well!

Personally, I never would notice if there was no coffee at a wedding. The only time I remember there being coffee at a wedding I went to was at a "breakfast for dinner" themed wedding. I honestly don't think any of the other weddings I've been to have had it available. We are literally only having it because it is included in our package, before I joined this site I didn't even know that this was something that was expected, but I also don't drink coffee (or consume much caffeine at all) so this isn't something that is important to me.

I love love love coffee. To the extreme. My FH is the same way. We brew coffee on our game nights, and always get it with dessert. We wouldn't even think about paying that ridiculous amount for coffee. Nope all the way. More than likely, the catering company finds coffee a hassle, and has found a way to discourage it, unless it is worth their while. Maybe look into alternatives, but do not feel like you are beholden to serve $700 coffee to people.

We paid extra for coffee and tea to be made available at the end of the night, it was expensive too. I can't remember the exact price but a lot of our family members that are older love tea and coffee so we had to do it. I remember being pissed at the price too but it is what it is.

That is absolutely outrageous! As a guest, I do love a cup of coffee. But as a bride I absolutely would not spend that amount.
What about getting a box of joe from Dublin Donuts? I know it’s not the classiest option, but might be an okay alternative.