College Student - own invitation or with their parents?

I know people say that if they're 18, they get their own. But I didn't do it that way. I only have two college students invited, and I included their name on their parents' invites.

For me, I am thinking if I am allowing the college student to bring a plus one, I am sending a separate invitation otherwise I am including the student on the parents' invitation.

I would do what Erin suggested.

When I was in College my FH's sister got married. She sent me my own invite to my dorm. I LOVED IT! I would send it directly to her if you have the extras

I would send it to her parents, even if she is over 18 and bringing a date. I lived in a sorority house in college and our mail came in a huge pile for 100 girls, a lot of times I never received important stuff or I'd get it like a week or two later. We also just sent a Save the Date to my cousin at her own dorm address, and it came back to us as "undeliverable" because it arrived at her dorm over Christmas break and apparently her college wouldn't deliver it.

I disagree with the whole, you are over 18, you get your own invite. Im sending one invite per address. It seems like a waste of paper and money to send four invites to the same address because all three kids still live at home.

I agree with you, wedding speech is very important. I always worry when I say something important, for this I hope it will help me.

I fall along these lines: if she lives at home and she's not allowed to bring a date, include her with your parents.

If she lives somewhere else while she's at school (an apartment, a dorm, sorority house, etc.), send her her own invitation, date or not.

If she lives at home and is allowed to bring a date, it's just easier to word that on a separate invitation.

Overall, I like to err on the side of giving the person invited enough direct notice of the wedding. If she lives away from home and will be away from home when the invites go out, then you're relying on her parents to contact her and make sure she's going. As a college student, I really appreciated receiving family wedding invites at my dorm. It gave me the opportunity to proactively coordinate with my parents. Even if they RSVPed for me.