Communicating your HoneyFund registry

I wouldn't choose Honeyfund (if you watch their episode on Shark Tank you can see why https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_F2hYaACO9g Starts around 10 min mark) there are other websites that you can use...we did Zola.com (they take the least percentage from you, and you can offer to actually cover that service charge for your guests). We did a combination of a small registry at Target and another on Zola, with Zola being more focused toward our moving goals as well as charitable donations.

I know you are going to get a lot of flack on here about it, but do what fits your wedding and guests best. I would just make sure you do a lot of research about the hidden fees

Here is your bucket.

Why don't you charge a cover instead? At least you would get your cash quicker. Honestly, so rude.

@Kristin - With plastic wristbands at the door to show you paid.

Sell tickets.

@Mrs K. And they can charge a premium fee for the VIPs, you know parents, bridal party, officiant and even the groom. Cha- Ching!!!$$$

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Here's a serious question though - I had friends sign up for a Zola registry that had both gift items on it or like a $50 "buy us dinner on our honeymoon," or "help us buy plane tickets" tile. I contributed to the honeymoon because... I'm lazy? Nothing else that was left seemed that exciting. Do you all think this is just as rude as an entire Honeyfund?

@Kristin - That theory just reminded me of the lame post about a bride who was going to have an open bar for her bridal party but the rest of the guests had to pay. I lost my shit that day.

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Nikki, except they got a check and could go buy themselves a purse, not dinner.

The whole honeymoon registry is like, the saddest representation of first world nations. "Instead of giving us cash or a check in a card, I really wish someone would create a website with horribly designed UX that then takes a percentage of the present I was going to get anyway for these people to sit on their asses and do absolutely nothing to earn that money, and is thereby the ULTIMATE middle man."

How it even became a thing boggles my mind.

@Nikki - I think it is just the guests choice. On these forums, asking for money is strictly forbidden, but signing up for a registry for $50 pots and pans is okay. If you present the guest with both options, they now have the choice to do as they see fit...a) money b) tangible gift c) nothing at all.

I think you just give your guests the options, and they as adults make the choice based on whatever relationship or financial situation they are in.

I think sometimes guests feel better if it is attached to a specific activity or item, but really, it is just up to how the guests choose to gift or not gift (which is perfectly okay).

Because the registry is to prevent you from getting duplicates of the most commonly gifted wedding items, it's NOT a wish list.

WHY WOULD ANYONE WANT TO LOSE A PERCENTAGE OF $$ TO PEOPLE WHO DON'T DO SHIT. WHY!?

Honestly, based on the fact that they take a percentage alone, anyone who does a honeymoon registry becomes significantly more stupid in my eyes. So yeah, do what you want, but I definitely not only think you're rude, but also a liiiiiiitle slow.

Yeah – I mean in my younger days I would often run out of time to order something off the registry anyway so I would just grab a giftcard. On the way to the train. On the way to the wedding. I've learned a lot.

I honestly don't think there's a culture or group of people anywhere where it IS polite to ask guests for money. So I don't see where on earth this wouldn't be tacky, except amongst a group of people who are lazy ass entitled backwards country bumpkins (no offense to rural people in general).

@MrsK. That is classic!

@Nikki - perhaps I am 'old school' but I believe a registry should be limited to household items to assist the new couple in starting their new life. I also think it is impolite to give cash, but would not go as far as to call it rude. The distinction is that as a guest you chose to give cash. The couple should never request it. It comes across as entitled which makes it rude.

"On these forums, asking for money is strictly forbidden, but signing up for a registry for $50 pots and pans is okay"

No.. asking for money is RUDE.

Is Zola the registry where you as the couple can choose whether to get the gift itself or the cash value? I distinctly remember getting an ad for a registry that was basically like "Fool your guests into thinking they're sending you a blender, but you walk away with $50!"

So, lying to your guests to make money? Cool.

Lets put it another way. Say I registered intentionally at a store that gives cash back on return. I register for a lot of items. People purchase said items. I go back and return the items for cash. Is that not rude?

Asking for money is rude.

@Lori I've never heard this about Zola! I just thought you could aggregate items from different websites with it to have your registry in one place.