Communicating your HoneyFund registry

I personally don't think a honeyfund is rude, I don't see why it's rude to ask for funds for a trip and it's okay to ask people to get you gifts for your house. It's a new time, a time where people on average get married later in life and have already moved in with their SO (and purchased a house) and already have pots and pans, etc.

I would suggest not including your registry details in your wedding invite; if you are using a website I would put it up on there. Also maybe a wording along the lines of: "Bride FirstName and Groom FirstName have already built a loving home together, help us build loving memories!".

Nothing says "low class" better than Honeyfund.

For people to volunteer their money is one thing. To ask for it is quite another.

It's a new time

FFS I can't handle this. Can someone else please explain to @sue what a registry is. I'm pretty sure @m had it covered earlier about it not being a "wish list" or even "asking" for anything. And that little tag line is horrid. Just stop.

Well we already live live together and don't need anything. How best avoid getting a bunch of stuff?

@IHJ

Because the registry is to prevent you from getting duplicates of the most commonly gifted wedding items, it's NOT a wish list.

Because the registry is to prevent you from getting duplicates of the most commonly gifted wedding items, it's NOT a wish list.

Because the registry is to prevent you from getting duplicates of the most commonly gifted wedding items, it's NOT a wish list.

Because the registry is to prevent you from getting duplicates of the most commonly gifted wedding items, it's NOT a wish list.

Because the registry is to prevent you from getting duplicates of the most commonly gifted wedding items, it's NOT a wish list.

Because the registry is to prevent you from getting duplicates of the most commonly gifted wedding items, it's NOT a wish list.

@OP, very small registry. You may still get stuff. But these are GIFTS, and you do not get a say in what you get.

@Emmy - FFS (love it). It took me a sec but then I was like, OH! Nice…we should add that one to the WW acronyms list.

I think these are perfect.

@M, trust me I agree with you. I expect no gifts for my wedding. If people decide to get me anything, its the icing on the cake. All I ask for on my wedding is my family and friends around me. I was just trying to explain to them why asking for straight cash was rude.

Well we already live live together and don't need anything. How best avoid getting a bunch of stuff?

Don't register, alternatively, register for small fun things that you wouldn't buy yourself - board games, electric drink mixers, upgrades - be appreciative if your guests decide to gift you anything. Seriously, the entitlement of brides to be so worried about "getting stuff"

@Private User If you don't register for anything, you should do okay on not getting gifts. People will ask where you're registered, and when they do you can just kindly say that you didn't need any more things for your house as you are already established and you didn't register. You will thus get mostly cash gifts which have all the advantages of the honeyfund and none of the drawbacks!

Sorry, misread and PMSy.

To completely avoid getting any gifts at all, the only sure way is to elope secretly. Then you won't have to be bothered by all of the "stuff".

M, no I think your second post was necessary, for some of the other people that can't/don't want to read.

"Funds for a trip, you're paying for sex in a hottub."

Nailed it.

Let's be honest, a registry is also tacky.

There is honestly nothing you would like? An upgrade to your blender. Better dishes? Better pots? In my opinion, theres always something that can need an upgrade. Or is there something you want that you'd never buy yourself? That's the point of the registry. Its what you need if people choose to buy you gifts. And if they buy off registry, you smile politely and accept the item!

MrsA2B - no, it's not.

How many times do I have to post this?

Because the registry is to prevent you from getting duplicates of the most commonly gifted wedding items, it's NOT a wish list.

Yeah, without a registry, you're going to get 10 blenders. The registry shows that someone already purchased you a blender, so they can choose something else if they still wish to buy a gift.

Let's be honest, a registry is also tacky.

FFS seriously

I feel awful for how much stuff I put on my registry. I think people are going to think we are asking for a lot. But the truth is, we did just buy a house and I get a 10% discount so I want to buy a ton of stuff after the wedding. I hope people aren't thinking we want them to buy all the things I put on there.