Getting married this year. I'm quite opposed to traditional gender norms, but I'm also not queer (I dress like a not-very-feminine woman) and I don't have a big bold/colorful personality (I'm a pretty serious professional). The result is that I don't want to wear white on my wedding day. But I also don't want a non-white traditional wedding dress (nothing "poofy" or that drags on the floor) and I don't want anything period/themed/statement/etc. So I'm considering a simple, long dark blue/green cocktail dress or bridesmaid dress. (No wedding party.) But I'm not 100% comfortable with the choice, in part because I quite like the color white in dresses generally, and in part because I worry that there's some downside I haven't thought of.
So I have two questions.
1) I'm wondering if any of you have run into concerns about non-white dresses, other than social conventions/pressure/etc. One thing I thought of is that our photos may not look much like wedding photos. (I think I'm okay with that--anyone have experiences?) I know some people talk about clashing with guests' attire, but I really don't care if a guest wears my color (surely lots of male guests will wear my fiancé's suit color!). There are no concerns from friends/family. Anything else I haven't thought of?
2) Are there any other "non-traditional" options for white and simple dresses? I'm thinking subtle or creative differences, like accessories that are different colors (belts or shoes) or maybe a colored floor-length coat or shrug over the dress. Something that makes it clear I'm deviating from the tradition but that still allows for a classic, elegant, long formal dress in white. Any other ideas?
Thanks so much!
