I need some advice!! One of my potential bridesmaids-
We were super close about 8 years ago. Over the last 2 years we barely talk anymore. When we do, I am always the one to initiate the conversation and she is super short with me. The last time I saw her was around thanksgiving (actually she stopped by my work the week after Christmas because I printed off a paper for her she needed. Super quick, in and out). Whenever i ask if she wants to go do anything or even “hey want to come over and have wine and talk” there is always an excuse as to why she can’t. She falls into depression and says she doesn’t want to leave the house then she will be out with someone else later that day. She has flaked on my daughters’ birthdays the last 3 years straight. I just feel like she is avoiding me but can’t think of a reason for her to do so. Obviously i want her at the wedding but I’m hesitant to ask her to be a bridesmaid now; i don’t know if she will even attend the parties or help with anything.
So now for the advice- I want to send her a sincere text basically asking her if she is avoiding me, but I feel selfish doing that and making it all about me. The day after I told her I got engaged, she told me she is pregnant so I get that this is her time too but she just doesn’t seem to want to be there for me. I send her a weekly text asking how she’s feeling and doing with the pregnancy. Anyone else in this position and have some advice??
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