Confused

My fiancé & I became engaged on Xmas Eve while I was spending the holidays with he and his family in Canada. And prior to that moment, I knew that he was the person I would spend my life with and he said the same. Actually he took the lead on our relationship and I followed when I felt the same. He was the 1st to say I love you and the one who brought up marriage first. Everything about our relationship was perfect until 2 months ago. To make the immigration part of things easier and cheaper for me to come see him, and the process less stressful. He took the lead as usual, in ultimately wanting us to get married at the court house just for the immigration side of things , but we weren’t counting that as our real wedding and we’re going to have a real ceremony with all our friends & family sometime next year. We have had his family involved from the start and they have been supportive...that was until he texted his mom about being part of the court house ceremony, and ever since, our relationship seems to not be ours anymore. He doesn’t call me his future wifey anymore, something he said constantly long before our engagement, he doesn’t seem excited about us or our future now...making excuses that it’s just because we are so comfortable with each other now? And he doesn’t plan anymore...he used to come home everyday telling me how another coworker congratulated us, he used to want to be involved with planning things, he had asked me to move in with him here in Canada; and I’ve been here 7 months now with the suitcases I arrived with for my original 4-6 week Xmas holiday trip; but suddenly he acts very territorial about this being “his” house...when before, it was love notes galore telling me this is OUR forever home and he wants me to stay here. It is as if, our relationship is now being controlled by his mom. We were invited to a family dinner at his parents a month ago, and when we arrived his mom said nothing to us. She was acting angry and distant. When my fiancé became aware, as dinner was about to be served, he politely wished everyone a good evening and we left. When it occurred, his dad said that she & he had fought earlier and that she was also mad over a text she read between son/father. Ever since that day, she now has completely turned on me and before we got along wonderfully! This pandemic has been challenging for me personally with my job and his mother came to our house and made me turn down a 6 figure job, with my living/food costs covered being it was located where ANTIFA was rioting. So I turned it down. That was 2 mo ago. According to his mom, I’m now unacceptable to marry her son because I don’t have a job? Though I actually do, I have a rental house that I draw income from. And I would have had the job she forced me to turn down on top of it. Her son does not help me with my finances or bills. He pays for the utilities I use while I’m here...though I cook 90% of his meals and do his laundry. Any food I like to eat...like coffee, bagels, eggs...or wine...I have to buy my own. Any food I prepare fir him that he buys is what I eat. So he’s not supporting me. Actually saying this aloud, he’s not being a real fiancé. Or acting like a future husband, with the situation we have going on. Other than being here under his roof for the time being, he does nothing financially in my life. Anyway, he’s gone to talk to her to fix things. But she’s adamant about being stuck in her ways. His dad supports us. Everyone else supports us in his family, uncles...brother. It’s just her. His dad tells us to giver her time that she’s just that way with everyone. She’s since dropped me from her friend on FB.


I’m having a real hard time with this. I feel like an outsider now looking in. I feel like I’m an outsider looking in at my own relationship. I bland my fiancé for this because it’s his job to take care of us. Me. Not his mom. It’s he who proposed to me...and it’s up to him to mean the things he says. Now, ever since the day he sent that text to his mom about us possibly having a ceremony at the court house to help the immigration process, even though I was upset at him for texting that. I also told him we wouldn’t be doing it, because I didn’t like how he handled it. I want everything we do done the right way. Well now because of his actions. His mother’s angry at me. As if I’m the one who did it. He doesn’t act like he used to. And he went from calling me his wifey to making excuses to why he now calls me his fiancé (which is not often). He now creates arguments over nothing. When I bring things up to get clarity, he rolls his eyes, plays with his phone and mostly seems agitated I’m bringing it up. He’s gone from talking about our wedding to not talking about it anymore. He’s even told me, “i plan on marrying you, just not anytime soon” and when I ask what he means by that, since he used to want to marry me before I left Canada to return to the USA, he says he means “not tomorrow”. This rips my heart out. He went from not being able to wait to now acting like I’m the one who sent the text that upset his mother...and it was HIM. I was against it. We hardly make love, only twice in 2 months. When it as almost everyday before. He proposed again to me in March after he sent my ring to be sized, right b 4 his mom flipped out. I just cannot understand how things changed like this.
Any advice? I’m literally laying on the couch while he sleeps in the other room. I decided to leave the bed and come in here to sleep because this has me so upset inside. I asked if he wanted to call things off and break up. He does not. He said he loves me. He still holds my hand, sits next to me to watch tv. Writes love notes after he gets one from me. He even told me tonight he didn’t want me sleeping on the couch, that he could tell I had that look on my face.
I just don’t know. I’m scared to death he’s gonna rip my heart out. And that we aren’t really getting married. All because of his mom. He told me earlier she doesn’t like anyone, or any girls he’s ever dated, nor his brothers. Just to give her time.
I don’t know if I’m over thinking or if I should be scared. Concerned. When I talk to him he seems over it. When I ask if he really loves me still, he rolls his eyes and says yes I love you. Why do you keep asking me. When I tell him he’s changed since his mom started this, and his uneasy it makes me feel. He tells me it’s not fair to take it out on him. Hmmm I’m not. I’m the one on the outside looking in. He still goes there while I’m left behind here...and I’m here just for him. When I look up help online and like today bring up what the experts say, he dismisses me and says he doesn’t believe in Googled hogwash. He used to have our picture on his iPhone screen and Apple watch. He’d get angry when I changed my FB profile picture to not have him and i together. Well now our picture has been replaced with political pictures and I’m told I’m over thinking things?
HELP!