Considering canceling...

I totally understand and I'm so sorry. It's so frustrating that when our time finally comes around, this happens... we deserve to be celebrated and experience all the fun things of being engaged, planning, and looking forward to our dream day. My wedding was supposed to be in September, but we postponed to May 2021. I was initially so relieved, but lately I've been having thoughts of what next year will even be like. I don't even know what we would do if we still couldn't have it then.

In my opinion, losing $1400 isn't really that bad compared to what I've seen others lose over cancelling completely, but I guess you just have to ask yourself if you would look back and regret not having your wedding or if you'd rather take your existing funds and use it to buy a house or something like that.

Is your venue telling you that you can not have your wedding? I'm from CA and called the states COVID19 advise line and asked about weddings of 50 people and they said it is up to the county to decide.

Girl, I completely feel your pain. This has been a whirlwind of emotions. We live in FL and as everyone knows we are a large hot spot at the moment. I was stressed for months and then FL started to re-open in June, so I was excited and hopeful that our July 17th wedding would be happening and most of the guests would be here. But as the days went by things started to take an ugly turn and everything started falling apart again. I started to feel just like you do about it not being fun and really not even exciting. More like a feeling of lets hurry up and get this over with, which is horrible. This is supposed to be such a special time for us and really it is all out of control and its nothing we can do. So after many roller coaster days as you said, we are having something smaller now on July 17th and doing a reception next June. I still wanted those memories and didn't feel like giving that up and letting this stupid virus win. So my wedding day will not be exactly what I have always pictured it would be, but I know it will be special and a day I will always remember because I get to marry the love of my life. Then have a nice party next year with more people I love. Good luck and I really hope you can decide what will make you guys happy and still give you the great memories you deserve!

I totally know how you feel! Our wedding is on 10/10. I'm from northern CA and a lot of counties our spiking in cases. I'm getting married in a rural county with low cases, but it's up to the venue to decide to cancel on us or not (so far they haven't). I'm so nervous that somedays I question if I even want the full wedding experience, or just cancel everything and elope with our parents somewhere. AND I also keep thinking that maybe our wedding at the venue might actually be okay though. So I keep going back on these thoughts and it's driving me crazy haha.

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SAMEEE!!! We are getting married 10/24, and the back and forth is driving me insane. My emotions are all over the place.

We planned our wedding for August 8th only to realize that wasn't going to be a safe choice (and eventually finding out that what we had planned wouldn't even be allowed). We would have lost way more than $900 by cancelling altogether instead of postponing, so that part probably wasn't as difficult as it is for you, but I definitely understand how frustrating this can be. We're still getting married on 8/8 in a way that I'm happy with (I can describe it if you're interested) but we're also still having the big reception we planned in 2021. Would you consider doing something like that to give yourself as much of what you wanted as possible given the circumstances?

I was torn like you were back in March leading up to our April wedding here in Virginia. Finally my fiancé and I decided that we wanted our dream wedding I have been planning for a year, so we decided to postpone until September. Such a huge relief once we finally pulled the trigger and move the date. But to be honest, you guys don’t have that much money tied up into the wedding right now, so if you decided to do something different just cutting your losses now could be an option. Do you whatever you will be happy with in five years. Will you look back and be happy with what you decided, or would you wish that you would have postponed for a month or two? Totally up to you, hugs, I know it’s hard.

View Quoted Comment I have a destination wedding planned for April 2021 and I’ve been to scared to do anymore planning or even send out invites yet

I'm sorry this is happening - to you, and to all of us. I know I can't speak for what that $ means for y'all, so you can definitely weigh that differently - if we cancel, we lose $16k unless we go to court. Sooooo I'm kinda stuck with our September VA wedding. It might be the most expensive per person wedding I've ever imagined.
Sigh.
Good vibes your way!

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They did say we could have our wedding, but that the bride and groom would have to wear a mask during the ceremony - which the event coordinator knew wasn't ideal and said she'd recommend postponing for next year. They'd also require us to sign a new contract with all the guidelines, including keeping every household 6 feet apart, and have a new contract with everyone of our vendors stating they would wear masks, etc. So too much of a headache, and not anything how I wanted the day to go!

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Ugh, yes. Perfectly said - right when our time comes around it's literal heartbreak. We're still trying to decide what we'd rather do. It's a hard decision because eloping with a small group of people sounds like an awesome idea, but so did our original plans. Wish you the best!!

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It totally sucks to have to go through this when it's supposed to be such an exciting time in our lives! I'm glad we have people on here who can relate. I think it's great that you're still getting married! The most important thing to me was our ceremony venue, and that's the one with crazy strict guidelines that would make our wedding not fun/pointless so I have no choice to hold off, or come up with a completely different plan. Thank you!! Wish you the best!!

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Yeah, everything is so up and down my opinion on everything wedding related changes every day! I wish you the best!

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Oh no, I'm so sorry! I'm sure your day will be beautiful, and maybe more special with less people. I hope you have the best day ever!

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Yeah, that would be rough. My venue is a bit more relaxed. I'm sorry, but I'm sure your wedding will still be great no matter what!

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Well I hope your dream wedding is everything you imagined! It definitely would be a relief if they'd at least let me pick a day already! lol We may elope with a small group of people, but I love our original plans so still have some thinking to do. Thank you!!

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I've been trying to think of ALL other options. We wanted to get married on 7/11 (our 8 year anniversary, and 1 year after he proposed) but we can't get a marriage license in time, so that's out of the question. The most important thing to me about the wedding was the ceremony venue, which are the one's with the strict rules, so we couldn't even have a small ceremony only there. Now, I'm considering canceling everything and just eloping with our family in Big Sur. But I loved all of our original plans, so we're still trying to make a decision. Happy it worked out for you and hope you have an amazing wedding day!

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Yes, nothing about any of this is fun and really does bring you down. I wish you the best as well and pray that you can have your special day with the special memories that everyone deserve to have on their wedding day!

I’m so sorry this is suppose to be our time and it just seems like it has been taken away from us I want to believe that better days are coming for us and if we can get through this then our marriages can literally get through anything although it is not ideal and not what we can originally wanted sometimes making the plan b may be best and if there’s a will there’s a way. I never wanted a backyard wedding but I want to be married more then anything so my ceremony will be this July 17 in my backyard where I will feel comfortable and won’t have restrictions with about 35 of my closest family and friends and then my reception will be next year at my venue for our 1 year anniversary is something like this an option for you or even like an outside restaurant? None of this is easy I completely get that but as others have said you have to do what will be best for you you don’t want to look back in 10 years and regret not doing what you really wanted.

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Yes, all couples who planned weddings during this must be able to get through anything! lol. I'm set on our original plans, which can't happen unless we postpone. It's just frustrating since we've been together for 8 years already. We've considered eloping and doing a backyard thing, because we live on a ranch. But I don't think I'd be happy with that in the long run. Plus, the most important person in my life, is my grandpa who's 70 years old - and I just think it's too much of a risk to host anything with any amount of people right now really. But I hope you have a great wedding! I'm sure it will be amazing.