*this is a long one as it has been building up for months*
I'm NOT planning my bachelorette but I was asked from the beginning (Aug-2017) if I wanted to go to Miami for a weekend in June, I said 'sure' and that was it. As time went on, my 2 MOH started complaining to me about other girls, asking me what I wanted to do and sharing the suggestions with me. Same with one of my BMs, she started complaining to me about the other girls and how she doesn't want to share ideas anymore because they keep shutting her down. Basically, my group of six ladies are very diverse. Some are married with kids, one is still in college, one is prepping for med school, some are having financial issues and have different comfort/interest levels. So I kept telling my MOH that I don't want to be in the planning process because I think it's best and its not normal for the bride. But she/they would take it the wrong way as if I didn't want to have a bachelorette altogether. So fast forward to last weekend, we had a conference call (3 are OOT, 3 are in town) to discuss when to order dresses and few reminders blah blah. With it being March + being told to save a weekend in June for the bachelorette + hearing all of these concerns and complaints, I asked if there was an update on it because I didn't know if I was paying/buying my own tickets and stuff or not (I am ok with doing that, I just wasn't sure). So i hear that nothing has been planned except for the date. I said "ok maybe this trip should be a big "if" and every one should be on the same page,because time is ticking, i know that there are concerns and I need to know if I should still save this weekend or not". *sidenote, I was even told that there was a separate group chat for the bachelorette* So today comes and one of my BMs texted me saying that I shouldn't cancel my Bachelorette, one of my MOH messaged me saying that a different BM misunderstood what I said about the bachelorette, then she sent me screenshots of their group chat conversation saying that I said the Miami trip might not happen and we should discuss if it's happening or not. I then tell the same MOH that this is the reason why i didn't want to get involved, I've heard so many complaints/concerns and nothing has been planned yet besides the date and that I think we should cancel or look at other options. She then said, "who is complaining? who is having financial concerns? when we were talking about the trip no one said anything in the group chat" So here I am writing this discussion, as a warning to future brides to not get involved, to vent and to ask if you would suggest to cancel in this case.
