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Just Said Yes October 2023

Considering the elderly invitees

Michael, on January 18, 2023 at 4:19 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 8

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Hey there!

My Fiance and I are planning to be married in October at a spot we've wanted for years. It does everything: Ceremony, Reception, Catering, Lodging, Recreational activities, etc. And fits within our smaller budget.

It's about 2.5 hours from my family, and 1.5 from his. I don't think this is far to travel for a wedding (considering I often make a 3 hour trip for lesser important events), but I am concerned about grandparents. All four of them are in their 80s and aren't the most mobile. 3 are my side, one is his side.

No matter what, people will have at least a 1.5 hour drive on either side. I'm sure his grandma would be willing/able, not so sure about mine/the rest.

Do we stick to our guns and book our venue? Do we find a spot closer to where most of the older guests are? Am I overthinking this? I don't want to miss out on my grandparents being at my wedding, but I also don't want to book a venue 20 minutes from their house that is likely overpriced and force his family to drive 3 hours.

Thanks for any help!

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Latest activity by Michelle, on January 19, 2023 at 4:36 PM

Super October 2023
Kelly · on January 18, 2023 at 4:31 PM
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Book the venue! I agree that 1.5 hours is not very far to travel. Can the grandparents travel with their kids or grandkids? There has to be a solution. Whatever you do though, act quickly. October is very popular and venues book fast nowadays.
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Just Said Yes October 2023
Michael · on January 18, 2023 at 4:33 PM
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Thank you! And yes, we're working with someone who has the date set aside for us for the next few days while we confirm 😁
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Rockstar October 2023
Michael · on January 18, 2023 at 4:37 PM
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Various options are available for the grandparents. If they need to, they may be able to arrive a day early so that the wedding day is easier on them. Or they can travel with some others if that works better for them. You could also check if they are okay with the distance and still willing to go to the ceremony.
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Super October 2023
Kelly · on January 18, 2023 at 4:50 PM
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That's great! Also, if your grandparents decide they don't want to travel, you could live stream the ceremony so they could watch from home.
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VIP October 2022
Paige · on January 18, 2023 at 5:16 PM
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I say book the venue! A 2.5/ 1.5 hour drive isn't a huge trek, and they'll have ~9 months to figure out the best way to coordinate transportation. Plus, that's a decent split on travel time for each side.
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Erin · on January 18, 2023 at 6:21 PM
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Since it will be far for at least one side no matter what you do, I say book it!
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Anna · on January 18, 2023 at 6:31 PM
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Go with the venue. If your grandparents have concerns, they can voice them to your parents/FH’s parents, or to you. If they can’t drive, then your family will have the extra challenge of figuring that out, but it is do-able, and will be worth it.
Also I would think your grandparents would tell you not to worry about them, either, and plan as you need/want.

It is very considerate of you, I love how deeply you care for them! But with venues being such a pain in the you-know-what to book, don’t let this dream spot slip through your fingers!!
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Rockstar December 2022
Michelle · on January 19, 2023 at 4:36 PM
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Book the venue you want. Grandparents can carpool with other relatives. That is very common and no need to make an issue
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