Contagious Bride

A fever for 4 days and she hasn't been tested for corona? This bride is very selfish and could potentially put a lot of people at risk. I would not go unless I see proof of a negative test result--even if you're in the wedding party. This is a pandemic, people! We have to trust the scientists

I agree with Hanna. I wouldn't want it on my conscience that I could become exposed from a sick bride and then expose 100's of other people. We all need to take personal responsibility. I don't believe we should panic, but, common sense must be used. If I were you, I would bow out and apologize.

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If you decide to cancel, contact the hotel, airline, etc. about refunds. I had a hotel reservation for this weekend through Priceline, which is supposed to be nonrefundable. But when I called the hotel and said that my event (a memorial service) had been indefinitely postponed due to COVID-19, they agreed to refund all my money.

Wouldn't she cancel on guessing if she's contiguous??? I don't think I'll go knowing shes sick and with everything going on...

You may decide for yourself if you want to risk getting sick. It's all the people you might expose to the virus before you realize you're sick that I think you should consider, some of them old, some of them with compromised immune systems. Our governor yesterday asked that all large events be cancelled, and he's hardly the hysterical type.

I agree with many PPs. Even if you aren't in a high risk group, please don't risk becoming infected and spreading it to others who are. I'd apologize, offer best wishes, and bow out. The bride is being irresponsible by not cancelling when she doesn't know what she has. I wouldn't join her in risking who knows how many people's health.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I am not attending due to the risk of spreading an illness to other who need to be protected. I’m not sure the bride will understand but I need to be socially responsible

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I did just cancel and let the bride know. It’s not worth it to spread an illness, we need to stand together as a community to protect all its members

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I think that's the right decision. Was the bride understanding about it?

View Quoted Comment I haven’t heard anything back she didn’t answer my call so I left a text and voicemail

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I think you did the right thing. I can't believe if she is THAT sick that she would continue on with it. I know personally that I wouldn't. I would not want to infect so many others, especially the elderly family members on my fiance's side and MINE, let alone everyone else who could potentially infect their families, etc. This is why pandemics start. I feel bad for the bride because of all the work put in and anticipation but you did the right thing. And when others get sick, etc. she will have it on her conscience. Hopefully it isn't coronavirus and hopefully whatever it is she gets better along with everyone else that will be infected.

I wish I knew where this wedding was location wise...because if it was local to me, I'd be having a fit!!!

Unfortunately there is a severe shortage of tests. I don’t think it’s realistic to go and avoid the bride and it’s not fair to put your health at risk for the sake of etiquette. Don’t go, send your regrets and a gift if you feel so inclined.

View Quoted Comment I made the decision not to go, it’s socially important to protect the spread of any illness esp in these unknown times. Thank you for the support

View Quoted Comment Glad to hear it! Though I understand the stress brides are under, I think it’s irresponsible to continue with an event when you PERSONALLY might infect your guests. It’s one of the very few times I would really urge someone to just reschedule, though I understand how devastating that is. I’m glad you’re putting your health and the health of those around you first.

It's inconsiderate to be around people when you've been seriously sick (fever for four days is significant) and told you are contagious. Frankly I think the bride is in the wrong and you should feel free to do whatever you need to do to keep yourself safe.

Even if there was no pandemic, I'd still consider this serious enough for the bride to reschedule or alter her plans. With Covid19 and current travel restrictions, it would be irresponsible of you to go, expose yourself to someone who is sick, and then travel home, possibly spreading the infection to others during your travels and bringing it to your community back home.

I actually think going and participating knowing that this person is ill makes you more of a jerk than skipping your friends wedding. If you were not traveling, I'd say you can risk it if you want to, but if you are exposing yourself and then carrying infection with you through airports and back to your community at home you are openly defying the expert advice of public health professionals and putting yourself and others at increased risk.

I'd say don't know unless the bride gets a confirmed negative test result for Covid19 and has been fever free for at least 24 hours (as would be the advise if she had the flu).

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Smart move girl.

The bride may be upset, but she's being irresponsible, and you made a tough call but ultimately made a decision to protect the collective whole.

View Quoted Comment THANK YOU. I appreciate support and advice. I do believe the bride won’t forgive me as I have not heard from her since reaching out. But our social responsibility is most important

Don't go. If you do, you and everyone who interacts with that bride will be part of the COVID-19 infection spread. While you won't die, one of you might share living quarters with a health care provider. If those folks get ANY symptoms, they are quarantined for 14 days and cannot be on the front lines as more and more victims (some who might get it from the community spread of this bride's wedding) take up beds in the hospitals. Right now, we need every health care worker to be healthy so we can flatten the curve by having no gatherings over 25 people (although honestly, it should be 10).

Tell your bride to read some articles about the insane situation Italy-because that could easily be us in just a week (if not less)-is in right now and consider much smaller scaled options for her big day-or rescheduling.