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Just Said Yes October 2023

🆘 Controlling Mom 🙅🏼‍♀️

Ashley, on July 10, 2021 at 6:40 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 11

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So I had a feeling that my now fiancé was going to propose to me. I expressed that I thought so to my mom. A few days later she then tells me that my fiancé asked my dad’s blessing. She not only blurted out the biggest surprise of my life, but the only thing she had to say was “I wish he would ask me.”
Now that we are engaged, my mom keeps bashing every choice I make:
number of bridesmaids (5)…she said I should have 1 like she did.The fact that I made a draft guest list….”What are you getting married tomorrow?”The fact that I want to hire a photographer…. “My phone can take just as good of pictures for free.” 🤦🏼‍♀️
What do I do? How do I make this stop without confrontation with her? She’s definitely the “I’m always right” type.

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Latest activity by Katie, on July 11, 2021 at 10:31 AM

Expert July 2021
Lauren · on July 10, 2021 at 6:52 PM
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What a crappy situation. Your best option (in my opinion) is to just stop talking to her about wedding things. You and your fiancé should plan the wedding you want. I know it’s hard when you are excited and want to share it but if she isn’t being supportive then don’t have the conversation. If at some point she realizes you haven’t shared anything with her, tell her that when you did she was critical and it was ruining your time. At that point she can either change her attitude or continue to not be a part of the planning process.
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Just Said Yes October 2023
Ashley · on July 10, 2021 at 6:54 PM
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Thank you! I’ll definitely be taking your advice! ❤️
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Master October 2021
Sexypoodle · on July 10, 2021 at 7:44 PM
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Since you know how she is, I would simply stop sharing information with her.
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Super July 2020
Cool · on July 10, 2021 at 7:59 PM
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Unfortunately all you can do is not share information with her.
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Super October 2021
Lisa · on July 10, 2021 at 8:12 PM
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That’s unfortunate. As the others have said, I’d not mention any plans to her.
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Rockstar December 2022
Michelle · on July 10, 2021 at 8:24 PM
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So sorry. You need to permanently cut out toxic people from your life for your mental health and you will feel so much lighter and happier. Do not share any details with her moving forward.
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Savvy May 2022
Gc · on July 10, 2021 at 8:30 PM
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I would definitely stop talking to her about the wedding, and when she brings it up don’t provide much detail and redirect the conversation. It’s unfortunate and sad that it has to be that way, but I’ve had to do the same with my mother and ultimately it has reduced my stress.
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Super May 2021
Stacey · on July 10, 2021 at 8:57 PM
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Stop sharing details about the wedding with her.
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Devoted June 2020
Victoria · on July 10, 2021 at 9:30 PM
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Like everyone else said- time to cut mom out of the planning conversation. But expect and be ready for her to notice and to be upset. You’ll have to be honest with her then.
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Master April 2021
Michelle · on July 10, 2021 at 10:50 PM
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Totally agree with everyone- keep her out of all the wedding planning!
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Expert August 2021
Katie · on July 11, 2021 at 10:31 AM
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Stop telling her details about your wedding. If she asks about the wedding just give her very vague answer. Set boundaries. She can only be controlling if you let her.
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