#Coronabrides, Postponing or Cancelling?

In need of advice. My albany NY 7/17/20 is getting postponed to December. We recognize come December (or as Early as October) we may be forced to postpone again if a second wave comes.


Our honeymoon is booked to Hawaii in late July and if they allow us to go we still want to. We’d do an elopement there, that way we are married no matter what, especially if we have to postpone at our venue again.
We began getting excited and telling our families, with context of not being 100% sure. We said anyone in immediate family or wedding party is welcome, not expecting anyone to make a haul to Hawaii given the times.
My fiancee’s family all want to go. They are SO excited. Now I feel very guilty. His dad is almost 70 and niece almost 3, both who would go. I don’t feel like we are forcing anyone but I would feel responsible and terrible if anyone got sick.
Some of this guilt is also tied into the fact my family is a hard no about going; I fear our honeymoon may become a family vacation; and I’m worried it will take away from what would be a vow renewal and celebration at our venue.

Our date is September 12 and the county that we’re getting married in, the governor has been all over the news as being a tyrant and keeps pushing things back. Right now they are supposed to open June 4 but knowing him he’ll keep pushing it back which means our wedding may not happen. The salons won’t open til the county is in green phase because he has threatened to take away all state licenses if they open against his orders.
The state I live in our county is in yellow phase and the courthouse said they will start doing marriage license over the internet through email and zoom. Part of me just wants to change things and get married in the state we live in but we’ve already made down payments on things and our venue told us to keep planning on. I know even if things are lifted the people we are inviting may decide to not come.
We’ve decided regardless that we’re getting married on September 12 whether it’s in front of 10 people or 160. They said wedding planning was going to be hard and now add a pandemic to it adds even more frustration

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I CANNOT wait either ! I was 100 days away from my wedding day and now I'm back to square one being 500 days away !!

We had a mini wedding on April 4th and we have decided to renew our vows on our 1 year anniversary. I didn't wear my dress, so I will be wearing it then...

View Quoted Comment My area is starting Phase 1 tomorrow! Which puts such a damper on everything. I was starting to map out how to reschedule and now by September 5th a wedding could happen! I am just so stuck! I don’t want to risk my guests by any means but what is there’s that slight chance things will be okay after reopening and we get through all the phases? This is the WORST!

View Quoted Comment Even if there is a slight chance; there’s no rush! I’m sure you and your hubby will be married whether is tomorrow, in 100 days, or even 600 days!

View Quoted Comment My fiancé and I are going through the same thing. Our wedding date is Sept 6th of this year. We are continuing to plan, since our venue won’t allow us to reschedule until a month out from our date. Right now everyone is telling us that we are still good to continue with our original date, but we do not want to risk our guest’s health. An acquaintance of mine has pushed her date back a year from now, and she was planning on having her wedding in October, a month after ours. She pushed her wedding back due to the risk of not having as many guest in attendance. I am hopeful that everything will work out. It seems that the States are slowly reopening. As long as everyone continues to practice social distancing for a while, we should be fine.

View Quoted Comment It’s so up in the air and it’s so hard to decide with all the unknown! My part of New York is starting Phase 1 tomorrow so the next couple weeks will be very telling of how things are looking and will help make my decision! I don’t want to put anyone’s health at risk... I would NEVER forgive myself if I jeopardize anyone! So I’m really struggling with that. But I just have that glimmer of hope it will be okay and I don’t want to give up my date just yet. I wish my venue would allow me to pick a back-up date like many others are but they won’t due to also having to reschedule concerts and other events. I wish they would give me my deposit back because I’d feel better doing an outdoor reception with just our closest family and friends but they have told me multiple times it is non-refundable.

View Quoted Comment My fiance and I are the same date as you! We're on Long Island and aren't yet opening up, but we're still holding out hope that everything works out and masks/distancing aren't an issue. We've talked about postponing but as 2 of my brothers are getting married 2021, we don't want to put a 3rd family wedding in the same year and would have to wait until 2022 (which neither of us want). Super stressful to even think about/have to consider!

View Quoted Comment I’m in the capital region which opens tomorrow too. My venue is letting me choose a backup but the dates are all thursdays or sundays through end of 2021. When is your original day?

View Quoted Comment Mine is Saturday, September 5th. I would feel so much better if I could have a back-up date. Thursdays and Sundays are tough, but I read an article last night that random days of the week are going to be the new wedding trend! When is your wedding?

View Quoted Comment My venue was definitely great with that. Original day was 7/17, now likely will be 12/17.

View Quoted Comment My venue has a 12/5 date opening but I’m worried about the winter being even worse! If only I could take that date just to be safe! Good luck to you!!

We're still holding out for 7/28/20. I'm happy we had decided to do immediate family only from the get-go and not the 150+ plus we would have with extended family and friends. Right now we have just 14 people including us - I contacted our venue last week and thankfully 1. They are willing to reschedule no fees at any point. 2. They feel that they will be able to have 14 people in the banquet area by 7/28. The honeymoon unfortunately is what I'm worried most about now.

Looking at possibly rescheduling AGAIN. We were supposed to get married May 30th. When we had to postpone that back in March, July seemed far enough way, so we postponed to July 18th. But I live in Upstate NY and my county just started phase 1 today. My venue believes weddings will be phase 4 and that would take at LEAST 8 weeks to get to. Which would bring us right to the wedding day pretty much, so that's not going to happen. Our venue did give the option of a few fall dates and we are considering October 24th now. We honestly have no idea what to do, go ahead and try to move forward with that day or just bite the bullet and postpone fully until next year. We have friends getting married October 17th and November 7th and would be sad if we decided to postpone and then by the time fall gets her weddings would be able to go on. I do believe there are going to be restrictions and weddings are going to look a lot different than what we are used to, but it's just so hard to imagine what those restrictions may look like when it's still so many months away. I really want to start a family soon so the thought of pushing the wedding off a whole year is so sad when it was supposed to happen in 11 days. UGH.

We decided tonight that we’re gonna keep planning on as normal. The state where we are having our ceremony and reception is currently in the red, if 90 days from our wedding they are still in the red then we are going to get married in the state that we reside in which is currently in yellow, and we are just going to have our immediate family present, so even if we take a step backwards we’re still in the number that is allowed in the red.
I’m praying that we won’t have to do this.

View Quoted Comment I feel you! My original date in 7/17 in Albany which starts phase one tomorrow. The uncertainty is killing me. Reluctantly making change the date plans for a December date :-( I wish the governor would say anything about weddings! It’s great he allowed marriage certificates early on, but this is a huge business segment and the events take so much to plan for. I’ve written my local reps a couple of times in hopes to get weddings on more people’s radars.

View Quoted Comment Girl, I feel you on that front. I postponed mine and I’m back to square one. But 500 days?! Geez, my heart goes out to you!

View Quoted Comment Tell me about it. My bridal retailer had to tell me how to care for my dress since it’s a long time away from now. 🤷🏾‍♀️

NJ bride here for 8/28. We just contacted our venue and we were able to push out our payment another month. They told us they are hoping to open mid- June and are waiting to hear from the governor. We will see! We thought they would give us a hard time to push out but luckily they have been great!