#Coronabrides, Postponing or Cancelling?

Ohio brides, the Governor has announced Receptions of up to 300 people can resume June 1st! I'm thinking, praying and hoping for you beautiful women ❤

View Quoted Comment My wedding is October 4. I totally understand how you feel! I'm losing my mind waiting and watching. I was thinking about maybe postponing until April or May and let the state reopen.

View Quoted Comment It’s just so stressful since my venue doesn’t have any spring dates past March! And I’d take a March date but it still could be bad at that point! There is just no way of knowing! I am at the point I want to switch to an outdoor reception but my venue won’t give me my deposit back. So I’m really stuck! Good luck to you with your decision making!

This covid experience has taught me that you never know what can happen. I definitely don't want to put several thousands of dollars and hundreds of planning hours into a one day event that could be cancelled at anytime. My FH and I were blessed to only lose out on $50 when we cancelled the venue, and all our vendors. We have decided to elop and possibly allow loved ones to watch us exchange vows via zoom.

My date was July 25th...its a venue that we already paid $10000 for.. venue says if we want to postphone to nxt year, they will only transfer half of that money..so we would end up paying .. another 5000 dolllars to postphone it. The venue says our state will be at phase 3 or 4 by our wedding date if things go as planned, so there is technically nothing thats stopping us from hosting a wedding, which is why they are only willing to return half the money...but 95% of my guests are from out of country / out of state who nees to fly in and some important members will not be able to attend due to financial difficulty they are facing... so im just feeling depressed and my mind is changing every minute of the day.....we already spent max budget....

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I don't think any venue can tell you where they will be..that's more like wishful thinking. What state are you in? I'm in Maryland and most of the state isn't even in a full Phase I yet. I see many states in the south and midwest moving super fast, which is just so crazy to me. Maybe because my fiance is in his residency in med school and is seeing first hand what is happening..my opinion is different. My fiance and I got a lawyer involved, he says just even having a lawyer send a letter to the venue is a good chance of them doing what you want to. So if you have any lawyer friends maybe try that? I hope your venue is able to be more accommodating. Why are they not willing to transfer all of that money you've already put down?

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the reply.


I also thinm it is crazy that states are opening this fast. Im in WA and we are fully in phase 1. It feels like they are reopening not based on sciendtific evidence, but rather jusy gave up and blindly betting/wishing for it to just magically go away.
I don't want to get lawyer involved because at the end, I have to work with the venue owner and so far we have been talking pretty calmly. They said that they would have fully refunded the money if our wedding were in lockdown stage and there was absolutely no way to do it, but as far as of now, wedding can be held in July. They are saying they are willing to lose half of their next year's revenue and that is woule be fair for us to burden the half......
I understand where they are coming from, and I want to be too selfish too, so im just devastated

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Yea, luckily my state's Governor seems to be moving much slower, which I am grateful for. I do not want a wedding this summer anymore. I just want to postpone to next year and hope things are better.

My lawyer suggested reading the contract very closely. How many people did you sign the contract for? He told us if the venue can't have that amount on paper you signed, then you have a significant reason to be allowed to get out of the current date. So keep any eye on that. Also, he said there could be reason to argue the social distancing aspect of it. He's put in a ton of work for us. He hasn't contacted our venue yet. We're waiting until June to send out the letter if they don't let us postpone by the 2 month mark.

Their reasoning also does not make any sense. I understand, the amount you paid is already so much and to ask you to do more is hard.

My wedding date is August 22, 2020, and I'm praying as well. I hope we will be well into phaze 2 by them. Good luck

I found this article and I feel like it’s the most realistic wedding postponement article I’ve read in some time. It’s probably wrong for me to post it as it’s a competitor site, but I feel like I want to share this with all of my wedding guests and family.

https://www.theknot.com/content/weddings-after-covid

We were supposed to get married on May 28 but we postponed until August 28

We are still Sticking with our July 12 date...we decided to just have our ceremony and plana reception for sometime next year.

What’s People thinking about weddings in October. Getting married in NH not to sure if I should get have a little ceremony on the date then a party next year

I actually cannot believe that I am getting married this saturday! Without a big reception to worry about right now, I get to focus on what is really important.

View Quoted Comment AWESOME...... Congratulations

We are Sept 6 and the Rockleigh still will not let us change our date without an additional 7k fee since they are calling it elective. Our parents are high risk and most of our family will be traveling in. No one feels comfortable so either way it’s a huge financial loss. So regretting booking there.

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Hopefully you'll be able to cancel/postpone once it's closer. I'm getting married in August and they won't let my cancel or postpone until a month out. If I do it before I have to pay them 75% of what they would have made that night. I think if it gets closer and the venue can't meet the contract, you will be able to move it. Just look over your contract carefully. We hired a lawyer to help us navigate this situation since our venue wasn't helping us in anyway.

View Quoted Comment I'm Sept. 6th and really worried as well! We're still planning, but have formed contingencies with our venue and vendors just in case. Nevertheless its mentally exhausting.

View Quoted Comment Date twins!
We're staying the course thus far, but we spoke to all our vendors and our venue, they were all very accommodating in forming contingency plans.

View Quoted Comment That's awful! I'm so sorry to hear that 😔