Coronavirus brides

Every time I think of my wedding now I feel dread. Our original wedding was supposed to be in December of this year, but we opted to postpone the large one to next December and to have a minimony this December instead. I am trying to get excited, but I can’t help but just feel numb to it all right now. I hate that I have to pick and choose a small amount of people to come to this years ceremony (I have a large family so it’s very hard. Plus my father is ill which complicates things tremendously). I get annoyed when I see other people post on social media being at weddings with no regard to COVID (many are posting pictures without masks on even indoors). I am nervous next December won’t be any different and that we will either have to settle with a wedding that’s not up to par with what we wanted or will have to postpone again. At this point i just want to move on because I am so over the worry, but at the same time we have already put a lot of money down and I don’t want to toss aside the wedding I’ve always envisioned with all my family there. No matter how many times I try to pick myself up I always end up feeling down because it all just feels so unfair. So long story short, yes my excitement has been out the window for awhile now unfortunately. I think I will feel better once everything is settled for our small ceremony and I can relax about it.

View Quoted Comment Yes!! I feel the same way, our wedding was small to begin with (our parents, kids, and his grandparents). But so much has happened with covid it just doesn't feel fun or exciting. I'm over it as well and I feel like I'm just settling on the courthouse. I'm excited to marry my fiance, we have been together 4 years it will be 5 years 3 days after our wedding. I think mine is part of me still wants a traditional wedding/reception even if it's just us and family. He has been married before and had all of that with his first wife. He tells me he didn't want it then either, but never had any say so in what or any planning. We have 180 days and I want to be excited and not full of dread.

Back in June we postponed our 10/10/20 wedding and now everything has been moved to 10/30/21. But no excitement was lost beyond that initial postponement decision day. It was a sucky reality that day but it didn’t deflate me since I knew we’d still get married (and I actually love our new date more than the original one). So it all worked out!! But, in your case, you mentioned that your FH would prefer a courthouse wedding, which you are fine with. So, begin planning for that and going to dinner afterward. What specific excitement feelings are you seeking? Maybe working on the courthouse/dinner plan will help you regain it.

View Quoted Comment That's a really good idea!!! I never even thought about that. I think it's mostly the change in venue. Our original was supposed to be in Gatlinburg at this super cute venue. It was outside, under a gazeboo surrounded by flowers and greenery. They took photos, supplied the minister, and even included a small cake with toasting glasses that we had etched with our names and wedding date. I'm a planner, he isn't and I guess it's the feeling of not having anything to plan for. Plus now I'm not sure if the courthouse is open on our wedding date since its Good Friday. We have to wait till the beginning of the year for the 2021 courthouse holiday schedule to be posted.

View Quoted Comment I hope the date works out. If you select a restaurant with a private room, you can still make it personal, still giving you things to do and plan for your wedding. For example, you can still bring in centerpieces, rent table linens/napkins in a certain color and also purchase a small wedding cake. Guests can make toasts and you can still use the champagne glasses you mentioned. It can pretty much be like any other reception, just on a smaller scale.

View Quoted Comment This is a wonderful idea!! We had talked about having a small reception at our house and his mom would get one of the local BBQ places to cater (they do small scale, but put it under catering without serving) we could decorate our dining room and I loved it. FH wasn't sold, said why have all of that stuff we can celebrate on our honeymoon. Im sure we will still do something small, just have to figure it all out! Thank you for all of the suggestions!! Those have really helped ❤❤❤❤

We postponed to April from October (this weekend actually) and I was kind of more excited once we postponed. I was so over 2020 and I just didn't want to do it anymore. Hoping April is better!

View Quoted Comment Ohhh congratulations!!!! Well I talk to his mom.over the weekend and we have the ball rolling on a few ideas.bwe are going to set down and talk to him this weekend (no work). Im waiting to hear back from a venue on pricing for a very small intimate wedding with no reception. The other option is our back yard.

We postponed from May to May. I have list excitement but my checklist says to pick up planning again in January. So I will. I just need a new start. The spice will come back to all of us as we get closer. Its literally like the rug was pulled out from all of us.

View Quoted Comment I couldn't agree more! He hates planning stuff and gets super stressed. I talked with his mom yesterday and we are going to ease into a wedding convo this weekend and ve like look this is our idea. This is what I really want to do. You don't have to worry about anything just show up.