Coronavirus=pure Panic

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Are you vendors able to at least reschedule for a different date? My wedding was scheduled on 4/25 as well but we had to postpone it to September. It was upsetting but all of my vendors were able to work with me an rescheduling. See if your venue has alternate dates available that work for your vendors. It's a pain in the ass to re-schedule but it's better than losing all of the money you've spent. Good luck to you, I hope it all works out

Hi everyone, my wedding date is June 27th in a city about 35 miles east of Los Angeles, California. This COVID-19 is no joke and I'm worry about guests will be afraid to attend due to large gathering. Even if cases start to decline, people still might not want to attend and people still be broke or just started to get back on their feet. My fiancé has cancer and we don't want to compromise his health so we decided to postpone till next year, May 15, 2021. I will have to order new postpone date card, new invitations and contact the hotel to get a new room block. I know my venue will accommodate if I decide to postpone but I haven't contacted my DJ/MC, Photo Booth and photographers. I will hope they will work with me and be understanding due to this pandemic. Good luck with everyone!!

View Quoted Comment Yeah Florida is getting really bad so we decided to postpone until august. But since I live out of state, my state has a shelter at home order BUT it allows weddings if it’s under CDC guidelines with no gathering of more than 10 people. So we will be getting married April 11 and have the party later. At the end what’s important is being with your love in a moment like this. But it is a bitter pill to swallow

Is anyone else having trouble with their vendors? My fiance and I have decided to cancel our wedding (5/16) altogether because of the uncertainty of this situation. We originally were going to reschedule for 6/26 but were advised not to. I don't want to have to keep buying things such as invites, favors, etc. knowing that I could continue to change the date and to lose money. Anyway, my vendors are not being cooperative AT ALL with our decision. It's so frustrating. They literally cannot have event on the day of our wedding and are completely pushing back about giving us some type of refund. I get that small businesses are hurting right now but there needs to be some kind of compromise with such a difficult time.

View Quoted Comment We didnt have any trouble with any of our vendors. We asked all of them what dates they had available in September & luckily we found a date on September 25th. Our original date was 4/24. We personally didnt want to choose any date from a few months from now because we still haven't seen the worse of this & even if it gets better by June or July I believe there might still be some restrictions or people will be scared to do gatherings. We honestly dont know what will happen but in my opinion I believe June might be too soon.

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I know these changes are shocking to say the least, but it is all temporary even though it doesn't feel like it currently. When I met with my bride a few weeks ago about the modifications we needed to decide on for her May 2, 2020 wedding, our focus was for them to become husband & wife. Yes, she had in mind a very different scenario originally but tying the knot with her soul mate & life partner is what they really want. We sized down to "IF" we could only have the officiant, bride & groom with each set of parents at the scenic outdoor location that would be fine. (Smaller option would be officiant, bride & groom). She would still wear her dress & have her gorgeous bouquet plus they would still have each other... Later once all this blows over, they will gather the original guest list with wedding party included & have a vow renewal with reception celebration. It isn't that the wedding won't happen, it's just that you have to down size for now to keep everyone safe. Celebrating love for each other...

View Quoted Comment That's what we had planned but as a destination to Puerto Rico which is on lockdown until 04/12/2020 and our date was 04/06/2020. We were scheduled to do an Elopment because we wanted it to be all about us. So now we have to figure out when another time will work for us.

I postponed my wedding from Sunday May 10 to Saturday August 22nd. I’m in Michigan and Detroit is one of the hardest hit urban areas. I’m not sure how I’m going to announce the new date. My wedding coordinator helped with verbiage but I’m still torn with do I simply pay for new invitations or use save the dates..

Yep I am too, well actually my fiance is! My wedding ceremony is scheduled for 5/9/2020 and we already planned for it to be small with under 40 people and then having a larger celebration over Labor Day weekend in Sept. My fiance wants to postpone the wedding ceremony to the same day as our celebration and just the two of us get married alone in May, I'm wanting to wait 2 weeks to see what is going on before rushing to this. Most of our guests are continuing to RSVP for May. Ugh. I wish I had a crystal ball to see what it will be like then!
Best wishes to all of us!
Melissa

I our wedding is scheduled for 5/15/2020! Anxiety started to kick in when a lot of people started asking "what about your wedding "? I am waiting a little bit longer before I change anything. Spoke with my venue & as of right now it is good. They will let me know if it changes 🤞
I don't want to change the date but will if I have to for health & safety of my family & friends.

Ours is 5/16/2020. Playing it by ear not sure what to do. RSVP’s are due April 21st. We’ll see where we are by then.

View Quoted Comment I feel your pain, I’m in a similar situation with my venue. Our wedding was supposed to be 3/21. They agreed to let us postpone if we picked a new date in 2020. But when we got the new contract for the new date, they snuck in some language that said if we cancel for any reason that we would lose all our money and have to pay additional money as damages to the hotel. We don’t want to commit to this because it’s impossible to know how long this pandemic will last. The most frustrating part is that they want us to admit that we cancelled the wedding, when it would have been impossible for them to host it since the governor banned the serving of food. If we can’t come to an agreement, we will likely have to get a lawyer involved.

I commented earlier, my wedding date is 5/8/20. We have officially decided to postpone due to my matron of honor and her husband not being allowed to travel right now. I would also not be able to forgive myself if something happened to one of my friends/family. It breaks my heart, but we will still elope on our wedding day.

Yes! We moved our date from 5/16 to 3/27!!

Okay, I just wanted to come in and say something. Yes, things are unknown right now and terrifying, but please, do not treat this as not being a big deal. This virus is serious and will not go away when it gets warm. I'm getting married in July and have already postponed all plans because of how many people we would be putting at risk, and we were only going to invite 20 guests. Please, do not be so flippant about this, especially if you're getting married soon or in busy areas. I've been having anxiety over it and found it more responsible to postpone and do something small for just myself and my partner until things settle and it's no longer dangerous to have large groups. To those ignoring the concerns of others, rethink your decisions. I know it's expensive and postponing is awful, but be smart.

Hi all, I’m a bride and a nurse and all I can say is I’m so depressed right now. We opted to postpone our wedding the day after I got back from my bachelorette (2 weeks ago) and today was supposed to be my bridal shower. As a nurse I know I made the right decision- we were supposed to get married may 16 in DC. Having been to work and seen firsthand the nightmare that this virus is and the havoc it can cause to an otherwise healthy person, I know canceling was the right thing to do. Luckily I’ve only had about 4 days off in the past 2 weeks since we made this decision, but in my time off I’m overwhelmed with fear over whether we as nurses will have protection when the virus really hits our area (which we don’t even have right now) and incredible sadness over these exciting dates and appointments I keep having to cross off my calendar leading up to my big day. On top of that, my parents response to me telling them the wedding is postponed is constantly only concerns about the virus and asking what things are like at the hospital. No one in my family (besides my sister the host) even remembered today was supposed to be my shower which is super depressing. To those of you thinking about canceling or on the fence- one of the deaths we just had at our suburban hospital was of a 40 year old woman who had gone to a wedding. I learned about this after we decided to cancel and was relieved we did so. I would hate to know my event led to someone’s death or severe hospitalization. The entire process, though devastating and depressing, was incredibly easy and vendors were amazingly flexible. I’m extremely lucky to be working with such flexible and gracious vendors! If your debating postponing I would say go ahead and do it. It totally sucks I won’t lie, but this is going to get way worse before it gets even close to getting better. And anyone else who wants to commiserate with me about postponing please respond! This all totally sucks!

View Quoted Comment I’m sobbing with you! Postponed mine and can’t get a date until next spring. Today was supposed to be my shower and wedding in May. This is the worst I feel for you!! Just know that all your loved ones will be able to celebrate with you at a later date if you chose to move it and it will be everything you always dreamed of (minus the timeline). I’m here for you!

View Quoted Comment It's disgusting what vendors are doing. That is so awful that the hotel is doing that to you. I would absolutely seek legal advice. I hope everything works out. While I empathize with small businesses, the government is offering options to recoup losses. We, as customers, are not being offered anything for our losses. I found a clause in most contracts (force majeure) which is a common clause in contracts that essentially frees both parties from liability or obligation when an extraordinary event or circumstance beyond the control of the parties, such as a war, strike, riot, crime, plague, or an event described by the legal term act of God (hurricane, flood, earthquake, volcanic eruption, etc.). It prevents one or both parties from fulfilling their obligations under the contract (Wikipedia). I'm not a lawyer and cannot give legal advice but I'm going to speak to an attorney about this. It's getting out of hand. Stay strong and I'm so so sorry that you have to go through this.

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Thank you so much for sharing this and everything that you are doing to help people in your community. I feel for you in people being inconsiderate of your personal feelings/your own sadness. Your in the field yourself and seeing this sadness, but you're allowed to be sad about your wedding, shower, etc. Students are allowed to be sad about their graduations not happening or a birthday party--or anything! I feel for you and I'm sorry your shower didn't happen today. When did you guys postpone to?

Mine was supposed to be today and we postponed it to April 11th and now we’re trying to cancel it and our venue owner won’t call me back to get my money back. So furious!


Is anyone having trouble with this too?