Coronavirus=pure Panic

View Quoted Comment Me too. Literally the same. June 6. Paid all the money. All guests have to travel. Soooo stressed.

I’m glad I’m not the only one freaking out over here! My wedding is April 18th, no cancellations so far but most of my family is coming from out of town! My bachelorette party is March 20-22 and I have no idea if I should cancel it or not! 😩 My heart goes out to all of my beautiful brides being affected by this! I’m praying for us all with this added stress, let’s keep our heads up! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

View Quoted Comment I agree. My fiancé and I have agreed to take this 5 days at a time—that helps us feel like with each new update, we don’t have to re-evaluate. Things change so quickly, too, that we can’t really make a decision too far out. For now, we’ve arranged with our reception space to hold the ceremony there and to keep our date as planned. The reception coordinator has been amazing and really gracious through this whole thing. Our officiant and photographer are still on board too. Wishing you good luck!!

I understand your stress ☹️ My wedding is in two weeks, we’ve decided not to cancel or postpone because it’s too close and we’ve worked too hard to start over. I know this is creating so much uncertainty for so many people. Sending everyone good vibes.

My wedding is planned for 5/2/20 as well and anxiety is starting to increase. We will definitely be getting married that day no matter what but the reception is what I'm worried about. I don't want others to risk health and I also don't want to sink more money into a reception which may be less than half of the people I had hoped to be there. We sent out a message to our venue yesterday but no reply as of yet. Trying to stay positive and hope that things will work themselves out by then. Just remember, it's one day versus the rest of your life with the man you love. We will make it through no matter what happens.

Hey how are you!? You rather be safe than sorry at this point. But reality is, that special day is one in a lifetime. Atleast it should be, so prepare but plan accordingly and don’t panic. Just remember, everything happens for a reason!! God bless!

View Quoted Comment Right? I thought maybe it was a comment from a while ago, because maybe three weeks ago there were some people speculating it to be true... but then I saw the date in the post! I’m in Washington, and the way that a quarter of a nursing home just... died is truly shocking. My wedding isn’t until October and I’m even looking at trying to push it out to 2021 to keep my older family members safe. Plus, I myself just found out I might have a heart condition. This is a novel virus, so there’s no preexisting immunity... it killed the 34 year old doctor who first tried to warn people, and I’m over 30, too....

View Quoted Comment I was looking at the data we have from China, and with aggressively authoritarian rules, they were able to at least stop the cases from increasing exponentially in about two months... but the only way they were able to keep the line flat was by keeping aggressive restrictions in place, and most epidemics I read about take two years to fully resolve. That’s part of why I’m unsure about a fall wedding... if we are not able to vaccinate against or actually treat the disease, and can still only manage symptoms in the fall, I really have to think hard about putting my family in that situation.

View Quoted Comment Hi!
I still want to go if flights are still on! I know there are 5/12 of us that feel the same way.. but do I leave the others who originally were going to go because they don’t want to risk it? And since we are staying in a house from Parsons, it’s like a vrbo, would we even get our money back? And if we went then the ones who don’t go can’t even have the possibility of getting money back...

I'm right there with you! Mine is on May 2 too. I have no idea what to do.

View Quoted Comment My wedding is also 4/4/20. We were suppose to go to Vegas with our whole family. We are lost likely postpone. I’m devastated. 😞

Mine is May 9 but 60 guests...so should be small

My wedding is on May 2nd as well. My biggest issue is trying to get all of my vendors to be available on a future date if I need to postpone. I bought my tickets for $42 dollars per person to fly to jersey(location of wedding) which was a plus for a family of 5. But overall it looks like we may have to reschedule if they do a travel ban. I also have a good chunk of family members from Florida that have already expressed concerns. I’m pretty calm about it because I know the wedding will happen. It just may not be on the date we’ve planned which is a bummer.

I feel you. My side of the family lives in the UK and they are in full panic mode. I am hoping things clear up soon. Our wedding is 5/30, so I am hoping the travel ban lifts.

Yeah I’m a little concerned too. My wedding is May 23rd & I hope it doesn’t affect our out of town guests. We haven’t booked our honeymoon either. I’m not freaking out, which surprises me. Lol. I’m sure it will be ok.

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Opposite of you actually! My family keeps reassuring me that everything will be fine because I'm the one who's freaking out. I was starting to freak out that no one was going to show up at the wedding. They said that at the end of the day, the truly important people were going to be there and I was going to marry my best friend. Which is the whole point of doing all this!

So I'm going to give you the same advice, as long as you and your partner marry, it will be the most perfect day ever.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Our venue officially cancelled today with a heavy heart, they feel so bad. We’re really upset but all our venders have been very accommodating and we will pick a new date and reschedule, everyone’s holding our payments as credit to the new date whenever we pick it!


For those who may be in the same situation here is my game plan: my MOH is gathering dates from the bridal party of weekends they cannot do from now until December and putting in onto a master calendar for us to use when we pick a new date! I’ve reached out to close family members for their dates. Once we have this, we will pick 3-5 dates (if possible, everyone is so busy!) from the list of available dates the venue is sending to us. We will send these dates to our venders to rule out any dates that will not be possible for them. Since we have everything paid in full, we will need to do this. If we only had deposits down, I would imagine being a little more flexible if we had to find a new DJ, etc. We strictly wanted a Saturday but with the circumstance we will most likely have a Sunday wedding and our bridal party was all okay with it. My mom created a impromptu phone tree and assigned each family member to reach out to another one. We will be doing the same tonight on my fiancé’s side. We will be doing a ceremony so we are officially married (but still deciding if we will be telling everyone because we still want to have a ceremony with everyone!) I think that’s it! It’s only been a couple hours but I’m feeling better about the stress of wondering what would have happened in this next week.
I like to think I’m good at planning so I hope this helps someone on how to proceed if they need to cancel ! It will all be okay, just breathe.

Ours is planned for 5/2/20 as well. My fiancé and I have decided that the most important thing is that we marry each other. We will be going through with the ceremony on that date, no matter what. If the venue cancels, we'll just party another time. I feel your pain, I am beyond stressed right now.

I’m getting married the same day! I live outside of Dallas and it’s apparently turned into a community spread over here. I’m freaking out because I don’t know if I should start talking to someone about canceling or not. 99% of my family is out of state in Ohio and a aunt in Georgia. I don’t want them traveling here if it is not safe. My father is traveling as well. He has zero immune system as he had a splenectomy when I was a little girl. I can’t get married if he can’t come. I’m so stressed.

Our wedding is planned for 5/16/2020, so still just over two months out--close enough that I am immensely anxious and far enough out that I still have hope that things might proceed. My big worries are 1) government closures/bans on public events of a certain size and 2) my fiance is Dutch so his family (including his mom) need to travel to the US from the Netherlands.

I've contacted a lot of our major vendors via email to let them know of our concerns and ask, should it be necessary, if they'd be willing to still work with us and potentially apply our deposit(s) to a future date. The uncertainty around this is a LOT to handle, especially after all the effort, finances, and emotion that goes into planning and preparing for a wedding. Don't want to jump the gun, but we do want to be prepared for the worst.