Couple Rsvp’d their 2 kids

Hi Jamie,

Just be honest with them. Exactly what you said.

"We are trying to keep our event as intimate as possible due to budget so unfortunately, we are unable to accommodate for your children. We apologies for any inconvenience this may cause."

Or something along those lines. Hopefully they understand and have luck finding a sitter.

I never understood when people suggest to just address an invitation to so and so and they will just assume kids aren't invited. That never works. They are a family so the only assumption will be that the family is invited and unless their is something to tell them otherwise, I can see why so many RSVP for their kids. We put an insert with ours so there was nothing to question. I would just be honest and let them know that you cannot accommodate their children.

I agree if you don't want children at the wedding, FH should talk with the GM and let him know that, unfortunately, you won't be able to accommodate the children. (However, I do think there are some potential circumstances that would make me consider trying to include them. How old are they? If either is less than a year and breastfeeding, that is usually an exception to the "no child" rule. And, if you are going to make a breastfeeding exception for one, it's harder to exclude the sibling.... [Depending on ages, that can be super awkward, "baby gets to go, but you don't." A young child is not going to understand that logic.] Do they live locally or are they traveling to attend the wedding? If they are traveling, I'd understand their desire to bring the children with them -- it can be hard to leave young children with someone for even a night or two. If they live locally, do they have reasonable babysitting options [either set of grandparents or another close relative? do they typically leave their kids with others?], if they NEVER leave their kids with anyone, then I'd have to weigh whether saying, "no kids," would mean one or both of them would have to decline. I'm sure there might be other situational variables.) Bottom line, it is absolutely your call, but there may be things to take into consideration before making your final decision. Good luck!

You tell the groomsman and his wife that kids aren't invited. If they weren't on the invitation, they're not invited. It's pretty simple.

Also I think this falls to your FH. He asked this guy to be his groomsmen and he should be talking with him about expectations for the groomsmen and the wedding itself.

I learned the hard way that people don't get the Mr and Mrs as being a clue-in to who is or is not invited.

Like others have said, I would be upfront and honest. You would love to invite them, but due to venue restraints you can only invite a certain number of people and that you hope to see them at the wedding. I'd also let your FH deal with it since it's his friend.