Couples getting married on April 1, 2023

I'd say it depends on your overall budget. Does that 20k include other things, or is this just the fee to use the property? If the latter, then I'd definitely shop around for other venues to get a better sense, depending on the budget you're working with. If it helps, our venue fee (just the cost to use the venue and nothing else) was about 8k and we spent about 115k on everything for the whole wedding. I personally think that you shouldn't spend more than 10% of your overall budget on the venue fee.

There are quite a few breakdowns like this online. Our venue is actually right around 1/3 of our total budget, but we were able to save in other areas and we get the venue the entire weekend so it was worth it for us. They also include bartenders, a DOC, and some decor for that price. Our venue is $10,000 and our total budget is around 35K.

It will depend on your area, day of the week, season, and what else they include. The guides above are a good start. Our venue is $5k for a Friday on the last day of their “off season” rates and they’re just the venue, they don’t provide catering or any other service. I think our total wedding cost will come to around $28k.

Our venue is a private yacht club that opens their large banquet room to outside guests. I don't know the venue fee, I just know that we are paying $8500 for 60 people. This includes the wedding ceremony (chairs, runner, tables) cocktail hour, plated dinner (choice of 3 entrees) beer, wine, soft drinks and all the necessary "hardware" for same. DJ, Flowers, Photographer are on my own. If we go over the 60 head count, it's an additional $55 per person.

Way too much. I would never pay that much on one day especially if it is not an all inclusive wedding venue.

This highly depends on the location.

We are on the central coast of California and our venue was 7500 and all it included was tables and chairs.

Our catering was 4000. For 92 people.

I agree with others and it depends on your location, day of the week, and season. If it's venue rental only and does not include catering or rentals, that is high for US. I've seen up to $11k for a museum rental in NYC with park access. A restaurant/ lounge wedding atop a Manhattan skyscraper with city views will cost more, but there is also competition with other venues. Also, keep in mind the time you spent indoors and outdoors if it's worth it, and if you have the venue for multiple days. Congratulations on the engagement.

One more thing to keep in mind: the grander the venue, the higher the expectations of the experience. This may mean band over DJ, plated elevated meal and service over buffet. I'm using stuffy black tie guidelines here, but you can also be very modern about you decor and vendor choices. I think it's interesting that a winery CA wedding is about the same money as a NY ballroom wedding, just diff aesthetic.

If you are native to the area and the owner is not, this is absurd highway robbery. Refuse to pay it. Find better more accommodating venues that are locally owned and will not try to scam the locals.

If you are planning a destination wedding, you do not live were you plan to have your wedding, and the person who owns the home does, it still might be a little high...how many guests can it accommodate and will that suit you, but pretty much, you don't live there, eat it and pay it if that is where you want to be. Tourists cost a lot. They are very destructive. I do not care how careful and clean you think YOU are, you will not be policing all your guests all the time on YOUR big day and going after you for the destruction your uncle caused when being silly after the fact is often futile, besides, you are coming onto someones personal property they have taken the time and prepared for you and then will have to clean up after you, regardless to how clean you think you are.

If neither you nor the owner live where you plan, it is beyond incomprehensively expensive as those who live in the area are paying outrageous taxes for a privilege they most likely cannot afford themselves and the destruction that occurs by the tourist trade in general and the money coming in from those tourists to pay for that destruction is not going where the tourists and destruction are occuring.