Couples shower?

My wife and I had a couples shower. We ate, played games, and mingled. I’ve also attended couples showers as a guest and prefer them over bridal showers 1000x over.

My husband attendee my bridal shower. It was in a town we weren't familiar with because we were trying to have it in between where both of our families live so he didn't really have anything else to do. We ate, played games, opened gifts, and talked.

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Thank you.

What did the host plan instead of a lingerie shower,hair/nail session ?

View Quoted Comment I’ve never seen any of that done at any shower.

We are very traditional and we did this! It honestly was just a nice cocktail party with gifts. Very fun and nice and not odd

View Quoted Comment These seem more like bachelorette activities. You can also do a joint bachelor/bachelorette if you want

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Thank you. We love the shoe game ( and other games for couples)

but don't want them at our reception, so our guests can start dancing/mingling sooner.

I think its a great idea! I’m not having a shower for personal reasons but I think your couples shower would be great!

View Quoted Comment Oh god I love the cocktail party idea! Thanks for the joint bachelor/bachelorette suggestion.
I'm 100% sure they will offer to throw one it since we're having 2 bridesmen,2 groomswomen.

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LOL. the MOH and BW are wild party animals!

We did a couples shower, because I'm was super-uncomfortable with the whole "the bride is the only important person to celebrate", and also because BOTH of us take care of the home? (Which the shower was traditionally about.)

It was really fun. We had couples and even some Small Humans there (we love being with our niblings), a few games, but mostly mingling, eating, and a GIANT cake.

My husband attended most of the second half of my shower. I personally find all-female bridal showers extremely boring 😂😂 just cause they mostly consist of sitting and talking which is not really my thing so i think i would appreciate a co-ed bridal shower. The fact that only the bride is “showered” is also kinda sexist cause the guy is getting married too and also will be using the gifts the bride is getting. Makes no sense

All of the wedding showers we've been to have been couple's showers, and we loved them! So much that we're having two couple's showers of our own!

I just like how couple's showers celebrate the other spouse, because I feel like most weddings highlight the bride. It's just nice to celebrate the couple as a whole!

At the showers we attended there was mingling, eating, and fun games. We plan on having cornhole boards set up, a football for the guys to throw around outside, random party games, and we're also doing a blind wine tasting table so we can figure out which wines to have at our wedding!

One of my best friends had a couple's shower.

In my experience, it was a little odd, ONLY because.... the only guests were women.

So it didn't feel like a couple's shower - it felt like a bridal shower that the groom showed up to.

There also wasn't any merry-making. There was food, but the bride and groom both had ENORMOUS families, and literally every person bought them a gift and had it there in time for the shower.... it ended up being 3.5 hours of gift opening. I'm not exaggerating. The MOH had planned some shower games, but none of them got played because they ended up opening over a hundred gifts instead.

I think as long as you make sure to invite both genders (make sure everyone understands it is a COUPLE'S shower and that they aren't showing up to a frilly frou-frou bridal shower!) and have great food, you'll have a great time.

I MUCH prefer a couple's shower over a normal bridal shower. We are doing a Jack and Jill, which is similar but a little different. To me, bridal showers are incredibly boring and couple's showers are more fun because you can have everyone you care about there vs. just the women or whatever. We are going to have raffles, games, some food and cake at ours. We just want it to be like a big fun party.

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super-uncomfortable with the whole "the bride is the only important person to celebrate", and also because BOTH of us take care of the home? (Which the shower was traditionally about.)": never crossed my mind, great point.

View Quoted Comment Yep. And DH cooks, not me!


Our friends did theme it to my specific nerd, but DH also enjoys that, and half our friends share by passion. (Harry Potter)

I would agree that having both genders at the party will go a long way and making the shower more of a tolerable event. All women does tend to make having the groom there feel a little odd.

One of my friends did a backyard bbq/olympic games style shower with their husband and it was super fun. They did cornhole and other backyard games along with some of your traditional couples games like the shoe game.

They also didn't open all of their gifts there which I'm all about. I get bored watching someone open a ton of gifts, I'd rather have fun and them open the gifts later.

My husband and I had a couple shower. I hate being in the spot light so having my husband was great. It also consist of a lot of our bridesmaids and groomsmen. We are a group that get along really well. The bridesmaids and groomsmen worked together to make a fun Jeopardy game. We also had a cookie exchanged. I loved having my husband and the group together. The only other people there were our moms.

We were considering a Jack and Jill, but ultimately decided against it.

Where I'm from, Jack and Jills are very money grabby (you sell tickets, there's raffles and other monetary games) FH's brother and sister in law had a Jack and Jill, we had to buy a ticket to the actual jack and jill which I think was like $10 I believe it included on raffle ticket, and then we also had to buy prizes for the raffle since FH was a Best Man, but then guests had to buy raffle tickets, there were two jars set up and you had to put a dollar in the jar that correlated who had to get a pie in the face, and while it was a lot of fun, my mom wasn't crazy about the idea of Nickle and diming my family in that way. So we decided I would have a bridal shower and FH would have a Stag Party.