If anyone's been following my discussion posts, then you'll know I've been having a rough time with wedding planning. It's been incredibly overwhelming for me and as someone who already suffers from depression & anxiety, this wedding planning business is just making me feel awful. Having so many things go wrong is not something I've been able to handle well (for example, my best friend of 15 years just notified me she not only can't be my bridesmaid, but also won't be at my wedding due to a new work conflict; then my sister who is my MOH and I got in a huge fight, so who knows how that will affect things; every bakery I've contacted over the last 2 months is either already booked or never returns my emails and calls, so I'm stressed we won't even have a wedding cake (which, everything I research says cakes should be booked 2 - 4 months before the wedding; ours is currently 3.5 months away, so how has everyone been booked already for the past 2.5 months?? Ugh); then I'm having very similar problems with finding a florist; our coordinator is extremely uncooperative and unwilling to help with very simple tasks; and my other best friend whom I consider a brother said he'd officiate our wedding, but has backed out because he's decided now he's too nervous to speak in front of 70 guests, but we can't afford to hire an officiant so we have no idea what we'll do with that (who knew they were soooooo expensive!?).
With everything going wrong, I'm getting this wacky idea of eloping at our local courthouse and not telling anyone, besides 1 or 2 very close friends who we'll need as witnesses. I won't lie... The Office's Jim & Pam's spontaneous Niagra Falls elopement before their disastrous ceremony was a huge inspiration to me wanting to do something similar. I'm feeling like, maybe if we're already secretly married by the time the actual ceremony rolls around, maybe I'll feel less stressed about so many things going wrong, because the real moment already happened. I don't know... I'm just trying to do something that will provide a stress-free and happy moment for my FH and I since the big ceremony is far from that.
So I guess, my question is... has anyone else done this or something similar? Did it help you feel less stressed the actual day of your ceremony? Thanks for the input!