Hi All,
Ive been in a military relationship for the past year and a half and we have decided to get engaged. I’ve been with him since before the start of his career, through basic and his current tech schooling. He is in Texas, and I’m in Idaho where the majority of both our families live. I’m going down to TX for a long trip in September and am currently working to save enough to start college in mid-western TX in Fall 2019. We have talked about having a courthouse wedding when I visit him and getting all the paperwork done so I can get healthcare, file taxes independently, etc. which will help me in establishing residency and help with in-state tuition. I would like to have a “real wedding” ceremony however, since the family and friend attendance aspect is very important to me. My family is also rather traditional and many would feel left out if I were to be married without any celebration at all. Would it be terrible to have the big wedding ceremony later with the reception and family even if we had legally gotten married several months prior? I hate to call it a vow renewal, because it makes it seem like we had an initial wedding that people missed out on and would then feel little remorse on skipping. I also don’t want to keep it a huge secret, since I know much of our family would be very offended if they found out after the fact that we had been married in advance of the wedding. I’d love to have the wedding in Idaho before I move, so it would have to be in less than a year from now (Ideally in the spring, when he will have leave saved up, we can have enough money, and the weather is perfect). Is there a solution to this that I’m missing, or am I just overthinking the whole situation? Side note: having dependents (me) will raise his paychecks and allow us both to save up money for a nice ceremony faster. I work 60-70 hours a week from three jobs but don’t want to spend the entirety of my education fund on my wedding. So just trying to find that middle compromise. Thank you for your advice ❤️
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