Cousins

I think it would be fine to get apps that you enjoy. i wouldn't cater your whole menu around one person but that is thoughtful of you to be mindful of it.

you should definitely ask your venue though because they probably have loads of ideas on what they can do to accommodate her specifically

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I agree with Melle that the venue/caterer may be very helpful in accommodating a limited number of special dietary requirements. Something as simple as a veggie tray is going to work for a vegan and they may have a dessert option as well. Good luck! (Plus, maybe they will decline since they tend to think they are "better" than the rest of the family....)

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If only we could be that lucky, but both cousins still will with his aunt and she plans on attending so I'm sure they will be. Our venue charges $10 per person for a veggie tray type thing on top of what we are already paying per person. Passed apps are included in our cost.

View Quoted Comment Just delicately let them know (or your partner's parent could do it through the aunt), that the venue has limited menu options available for vegans and they may want to be aware of that.

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But if you tell the venue/caterer that you have one vegan guest, they may be willing to do a veggie app plate for that one guest, without your needing to make it an add on for everyone. You might also ask if any of their passed app options are vegan -- there might be something like hummus or even a bruschetta that many guests would enjoy that can work for a vegan. Good luck!

Our caterer is doing special veggie entree for a couple people without offering it to the crowd because it is only a slight variation on what they are already doing for everyone else, so it’s worth the ask.
As for apps and cake, people with very limited diets expect it will be challenging to eat at events and usually plan ahead (I’ve been there myself- and always brought food/ate ahead of time). If it isn’t easy to accommodate, then just give her a heads up on the menu and (rightfully) blame the caterer!

Meet in the middle. Pick what you like and have the caterer prepare something she can eat. Make sure she is aware of the options.


If you are inviting anyone with dietary restrictions, you should do your best to accommodate them. That doesn't mean you have to serve all vegan or gluten free etc food but have something prepared that she can eat without having to eat ahead of time and watch everyone else.

For only one person it is not worth catering the whole menu for everyone else around them. We have a lot of Jewish family who do not eat pork, so our menu will not include pork because there are a number of people who don't eat it. If it was only one or two people, I would pick whatever we wanted.

Speak to your caterer and see if they can help you out about providing a vegan option for one, or adding a side dish for the cousin.

For one person that you do not necessarily like or know, I would not add things to the menu just for them. We have a couple vegans/vegetarians but also some people might just want to eat a little healthier, so we have some apps that they can eat and will work with the caterer to have separate plates for them because these people we do like and I want them to be fed lol. You should be able to work with the caterer without having to pay a whole lot of extra fees for one person.

We had a few guests who were vegan. We put some things that were vegan on the buffet menu, but the venue offered a special vegan meal (at no extra cost) for those with dietary restrictions.

Talk to your caterer. They likely deal with this often... though those cousins may not come.

Hi! I have a lot of vegan friends that have told me you could never go wrong with a salad and french fries. If you can add some rolls even better. The only concern would be something sweet but dark chocolate covered strawberries are easy and always satisfy. I know that a salad and fries many not be idea for a wedding meal but if need be that's always an option.