So my MIL-elect (as my FH likes to say) is like really freaked about Covid-19. My FH and I put off our engagement for a few months because his dad passed away and then a few more months and a few more months until it had been over a year (in total) of waiting for things to “go back to normal”. She doesn’t want us to get married until we can have a big event with no worries about COVID-19.
My family has had very few people actually get COVID-19 and the ones that have are the ones who’ve done the most isolating and been the most cautious, so my side is at a point where they “know and understand the risks, but choose to live life anyway”. It’s not that they’re not worried or don’t care, it’s just that a lot has happened in the last three years (my dad almost died, ended up with an amputation instead, my mom got really sick, not Covid, my sister almost died giving birth, I’ve had four people I was close to commit suicide since COVID-19 shut everything down, I had a friend die in a car accident, several of my friends and cousins have attempted suicide in the last year, and, of course a pandemic) and we are all of the mind that we don’t always get our “later” chance to do things.
My MIL-elect is a very opinionated woman and has never really missed out on something because she put it off, so she sees it as we can do it any time. And even though we’ve made plans (like doing it drive in style, but we have 12 acres to spread a max of 100 guests on, but most of my biological family won’t be there because they’re from out of state), she wants it to be exactly like she wants or nothing, but my FH and I just want to get married.
She’s stressing us both out and it feels like she thinks that because she’s more educated than my FH and I she can just bully us into whatever she wants (including putting off having kids, which I’ve put on hold for 3 years to be with my fiancé), even though I know people equally or even more educated than her who would disagree with a lot of her plans and ideals for us.
All of this to say;
What would you do to try and appease someone like this, but still continue on with your wedding?