Covid-19 and Wedding

I know it’s hard to not think of what can happen but my dear, try your best to not worry of days ahead for no one cannot do anything to change the circumstances but what you can do is to continue with your planning and hope for the best. I pray you will be able to have your dream wedding! Keep us update. My wedding is 11/5/2020.

View Quoted Comment The venue and my city and state cancelled for me. The marriage license office is even closed (it might re open by 4/25 but as of right now it’s closed). So I had to cancel everything. At first the venue said only 10 people, which was devastating within itself bc we had invited 160 and I was so excited to see them. But we were gonna switch it up and do the 10 people and have a beautiful intimate wedding. But then the venue and city cancelled everything. Even my wedding coordinator quit and refunded most of my money bc she wasn’t comfortable being around any crowds at all. My caterer also cancelled.
So I was mopey for a few days (kind of felt like I was in mourning for a day) then I just gave up. I don’t know when we’re getting married. I am supposed to pick up my dress this weekend (if they’re open) and I’m just bleh about it now. We are getting most of our money back but we aren’t going to postpone for many reasons. We will end up going to the marriage license office when they open again and that’s it. Im exhausted from being sad about it, and I’m too exhausted to try and plan another wedding. I give up.

My wedding Was April 25th and the venue postponed it till June 6th, unfortunately no one is allowed any "group" gatherings of more then 10 people and that is still questionable. I hope you get to have your wedding BUT remember even if people dont show up...All that matters is that your married! Not sure about the honeymoon as all air travel has been basically grounded. Good luck and stay heathy!!

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MARIE: I cant believe they just gave up on you like that!! My venue had me pick a different date and everything has stayed exactly the same except that instead of 4/25 its now 6/6. I cant imagine having to start over like that. Your venue should have given you options and the wedding coordinator obviously was horrible because they should have stayed and offered services for a different date! So sorry that happen to you specially since it was out of your control!

View Quoted Comment They did. The venue and all the vendors said I could reschedule. But there are many reasons why we can’t reschedule. It was never that simple for us. We will be moving around September/October. We absolutely do not want a summer wedding (in memphis summers are brutal, even when they are indoors l/have fans/etc). All the dates in October are taken. We will be in our new state after October. I had two kids from a previous marriage and in order to bring them w us when we move it is best that we are married before moving. So... rescheduling wasn’t an option. We just had to cancel. And everyone keeps telling me “just focus on the marriage” and “as long as you guys are married then that’s all that matters”. Number 1) the marriage license place is closed. We can’t get married right now. I’m sure we will eventually but yeah. Number 2) I am allowed to be upset. Believe it or not: I was focused on the marriage and looking forward to marriage AT THE SAME TIME as I was planning the wedding. I am excited about marriage and I KNOW the marriage is more important. I’ve been married, and divorced before. Believe me, I know. Just bc the marriage is the most important doesn’t eliminate the fact that I worked on planning that wedding for a year and all for nothing. I’m sad about it. And I’m allowed to be sad for a minute. Sorry but marriage isn’t all fun and games. It can be but in the long term it’s much more difficult. The wedding was supposed to be the fun part. It was supposed to be the party and a time when this introvert got all gussied up and her fiancé got all gussied up and we partied with all of our loved ones. We were gonna throw the biggest party of our lives. It was gonna be great. And now it’s gone and ugh. I just wish people would stop telling me to focus on the marriage as if I was t focused on that before. Just stop. I’m allowed to be sad. (Sorry... this is totally not me blowing up at you Morgan. I obviously am emotional right now and had this built up. Just venting I think.)

View Quoted Comment We were required to postpone our wedding. It was the best for all involved.


Fortunately we were able to find a date in September that all of our vendors and our wedding party were all available.
Best of luck to all and stay safe!

I’m sorry. I didn’t know her age and I apologized at the end of my post to explain that I basically just dumped my feelings on here but in no way was your daughter the target of those feelings. I’m sorry though.
You’re right about everything. To be honest my every day does NOT reflect those feelings. I’m optimistic about the future, grateful for my family’s health, thankful that I still have a job, and for the most part I/we are making the best of the current situation.
I “mourned” the wedding for 2 days max. Then I started to get over it bc I know it’s not the most important thing right now. Believe me, I know. I guess what I’m trying to say is it’s okay for people to be sad about their cancelled events or changing lives. Giving advice and supportive messages to each other sometimes means telling people that it’s okay to feel sad for a little bit. Let’s not STAY in that pity party for long, but it’s okay to visit and acknowledge the sadness. A lot of people think they’re being helpful by pointing out all of the good things... but just like ANY type of mourning: hearing all of the good things doesn’t take away the tinge or disappointment/sadness. Again, Sabrina, I’m genuinely sorry for dumping my emotions on your daughter for a second there. I hope she didn’t see that and feel offended. I hoped this group of people would understand my “pain” at the loss of the wedding, so i felt a little TOO safe in expressing myself. So sorry.

Also: I’m not being bitter or unreasonable. The truth is simply that in our situation we can not reschedule. There are too many unknowns for us to reschedule and spend time re-planning for the new event to potentially fall thru. It is what it is. We’ll still get pictures, and maybe we’ll elope on a mountain somewhere as a symbolic wedding but that isn’t a priority in my mind anymore. A big wedding really isn’t gonna happen for us; no bitterness in that statement, only truth.

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March 21st?

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Morgan and I honestly do wish you the best Marie, We hope the move goes smooth and that in the end you get your beautiful wedding however its size may be! And yes everyone has the right to "grieve" or mourn when things like this happen ( lets hope it NEVER happens again) its just so unexpected and sad that all those who have planned and spend so much time, emotion and money in these few months for the best day of their lives, have to rethink, move and possibly lose all that they have put in! No one should have to go threw this. The people who are going threw with their weddings ( that were not cancelled by the venue or vendors) are taking HUGE risks in the safety and well being of their guests and others, i feel it to be a bit selfish to continue like nothing is going on in the world but also realize the great lengths it takes to change such a big event like a wedding especially one that falls within the next 2-6 weeks. I do hope EVERYONE stays safe and healthy and that EVERYONE gets the wedding of their dreams....or atleast as close to it as possible!!

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I wish 3 weeks was when that would happen, unfortunately i think 3 months may be a better idea of when things MIGHT settle a little bit! They are saying possibly 6 months to 1 year before everything is back to complete normalcy.

View Quoted Comment Thank You Kim!

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Hi,

No, we had to push it back sadly until June 29. We confirmed all our vendors lucky enough so that's a blessing. Sucks but praying this all dies down by May. Stay safe and healthy!

View Quoted Comment I'm sorry to hear that. Thanks same to you!

As of Friday night we had to postpone...we were supposed to go ahead with our micro microwedding tomorrow (Sunday 3/29).

Turns out someone at my fiancé’s work is the livein girlfriend of someone who died of complications from pneumonia due to also contracting COVID-19. And since my fiancé and the girlfriend work on the same team in the same office, his chances at exposure were very high...which means I could have been exposed, which means our families could have been exposed. Needless to say we don’t want to run the risk of anyone else having that same chance of exposure.

All of our vendors either refunded or rescheduled with me except for our florist. They said so sorry and kept every dime. 😡 Not even the opportunity for a credit towards the rescheduled date.
Fall wedding here instead of spring but that’s okay...because I’m still marrying the man of my dreams, and it’s not about the party. It’s about the marriage.

Our venue gave us another wedding date we could choose any date that was available our wedding was suppose to be april 3rd next week but now postponed till july 25th they let us keep our package didnt have to pay extra our venue was very good to us

Hi there, so sorry you are going through this too, you're not alone! I've just posted a lengthy message regarding this issue. I think it would really help you to read it.

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/june-couples-postponing-due-to-covid-19-encouragement/e2e6a03e5635af33.html

All the best,

Natalie

View Quoted Comment I'm sorry to hear that and this definitely sucks. So do I, thanks!

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Marie, I'm so sorry that you are having to navigate all of that. I know for me personally, I have suddenly realized a couple of times a day that the constant background stress of remembering every few minutes, "oh, and also there's a pandemic going on," has put me just a bit more on edge because I do worry about my safety and my loved ones' safety. Add to that feeling sad and frustrated and maybe a bit hopeless and everything else which you described, it definitely seems like a lot to carry around on your shoulders. I hope you find some reasons to smile and laugh at least a little bit, even in these stressful and somewhat dark times.

Our wedding is still scheduled this Saturday April 11th. We are doing our ceremony via zoom! I’m actually excited! I updated our wedding invitation with the zoom info and everyone was super excited. I can’t speak for everyone but we couldn’t allow this current situation to get the best of us because it’s completely out of our control. We rescheduled our reception in August per our venue and will go from there. I hope you all find some type of peace during this time. ❤️