Covid-19 ruining wedding and baby plans

Yes, I was supposed to get married Saturday. We have postponed to June 20th and know that might not happen either. We will get married that day and vow renewal next year if we have to, but then I'm scared we will be right back in this mess.
I'm 33 years old and obviously not getting any younger. We wanted to start trying right away for a family and the thought of having to postpone everything to next year and possibly postpone our desire to be parents is what I'm struggling with the most

View Quoted Comment I’m totally right there with you. We’re both turning 30 this year and want to have a family. Praying everything works out for you. ❤️

I get this. You don't want to wait to TTC. But you also don't want to be forced to give up your wedding day. It is a lot to grasp all at once.

I can kinda relate !fiance and I have had our wedding date picked out for 2.5 years. We are getting married June 12,2020 the 6 year anniversary of us meeting. Super stressed and bummed and totally NOT in the spirits for anything bridal. We planned our second pregnancy around our wedding as well. It is super annoying. And I totally feel your emotions. Don't really have advise but just know you're not alone ! And if we could kick this viruses ass together if totally be down. ❤️ Best wishes

Hi Chasity, I feel for you! We are in the same boat. So we did our research and decided we are going to start trying this month. We were originally supposed to get married July 3rd, 2020 and start trying during our honeymoon through the fall of this year. But now that our wedding was postponed to September 3rd, 2021, we decided if we get pregnant right away the baby will be eight to nine months by the time we have our wedding next summer. If we don’t get pregnant in the next two to three months we’ll stop trying as I don’t think it’ll be enough time to recover and get in my dress. Hope this helps! Already been off birth control since last fall to start weening off the chemicals in my body and been cleaning up our diets for the wedding. I say check in with your doctors, take your vitamins and go for it!

I'm so sorry about all this!

Is your county still issuing marriage licenses? Is there a way to get married in a very intimate ceremony at some point in the next few weeks?

Then you'd be married and able to think about a vow renewal/baby plans with a little less pressure.

DH and I are currently TTC, and I'm in my mid-30s, so I understand the worry.

I can also relate. We were supposed to be married on May 9th and planned to start trying in July. My fiancé travels for work 6 months out of the year beginning in the fall, so we wanted to *try and time our first child to be due sometime in the spring or summer of next year. We are both 37, and I have already had a reproductive surgery to remove a large fibroid, and my doctor has advised me not to wait much longer to try and conceive. Now, we have postponed our wedding to August 14th, and we still don’t know if that will happen. We cannot get our money back, and I too don’t really want to be pregnant for the wedding that we’ve spent so much time and money planning if we have to wait until next year. I have been quietly stressing about this daily and just feel so sad about everything. Trying to trust in God’s plan for us but some days it is just hard.

This is how I’ve been feeling too. We are both in our 30s and want two kids so planned on starting in the fall and our wedding was supposed to be 6/13. Everyone was saying if you really want to be safe postpone your wedding until next year but I don’t want to be really pregnant for it or to not try until then. We are probably still going to get married in a small ceremony 6/13 and hoping to postpone to nov 2020. Atleast by then if we have to postpone again I’ll have an idea if a baby will be something to consider for the new date. It’s hard because this should be a happy time and you don’t want to sacrifice the wedding you’ve always wanted or put a hold on your future plans either.

I can honestly say that I do not want to get pregnant during all of this crazniness

View Quoted Comment That awesome. Sounds like you guys have a great plan B. Good luck baby making and wedding planning. 😉❤️

View Quoted Comment Exactly how I feel! Hang in there ... we’re all in this together! ❤️ Good luck

Ugh, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I am literally in the same boat. Our wedding is supposed to be august 28th and we were going to start trying that night! We'll both be 33 in July so I really want to get pregnant as soon as possible. I will be heart broken if I have to postpone. A part of me wants to just do whatever they allow and have a small wedding but we spent so much money on wedding vendors and our venue already has a deposit of 10k so I feel like we have to have this wedding one way or another. It drives me nuts

View Quoted Comment I am right there with you. Praying for you ❤️

Hang in there sweetie. I say get married in August start right away trying hopefully It works right away babies take 9 months to come not a year maybe you will have baby before the vow renewal.

Similar boat here, and I'll be 35 at the end of the year so there is no time to waste! Originally I was devastated by moving the wedding because of wanting to try for a baby, and it is important to us to be married first (and I don't want to be preggo at my reception/party whenever that may be). However, I also worry about not being able to receive adequate and safe pre-natal care while there is a global pandemic, and don't want to risk the health of me or my baby, or the possibility that my FH won't be able to participate in my pregnancy appointments or the birth of our child. It sucks, but I think it's better to wait at this point. Even if we can get married, now maybe isn't the time to get pregnant, IMHO. I'm definitely going to talk to my doctor before trying and heed her advice.