Covid-19 Sucks! Any October brides postponing for 2021?

First of all, I am so sorry you are going through this. I totally understand what you are going through – we were in the same situation with a November wedding. Unfortunately, if you are not open to the possibility of having a socially distanced wedding, you may want to consider postponing. Or at least getting a Plan B in place. Maybe speak to your venue and the rest of your vendors and try to come up with a back up date in 2021, just in case you do need to postpone. Personally, I didn’t like the stress & uncertainty of everything surrounding a Fall wedding this year (especially with the predictions of a second surge in the Fall), so we decided to just play it safe & postpone until next year. And I’m glad we did, because several of our vendors were already booking up for October and November 2021!

I think it sounds like you might be better off waiting an extra year. If you are looking forward to having a wedding exactly like you imagined and don’t feel like you can have social distancing or reduce your guest list (which is understandable!) it might be a safer bet to postpone. I would at least start reaching out to your vendors and see if it’s possible! Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the support. I'm sorry you also had to postpone. I'm more than likely going to postpone. Thinking about it instantly makes me feel a million times better. My fella and I have been together for like 11 years so its not like we are in a rush. Plus my parents are paying for it and I would hate for it to be lame with social distancing guidelines and friggen masks lol. My vendors are all super cool. They said we can postpone no problem. I'm hoping for May. I hope you guys have an awesome wedding and I'm glad to hear you are less stressed

In the same boat here. We're Oct of this year. I kept telling myself "everything will be ok by Oct. We have to wait and see what happens. I put too much time and effort into planning this to move it now if we really don't have to". Like you, I don't want a social distancing wedding or to have cut our guest list bc frankly there aren't that many on it that we could cut. I didn't want to compromise on all the fun things leading up to the wedding.


The more I thought about it the more I realized how much anxiety this was causing me and how selfish I sounded. By no means do I think anyone who doesn't postpone is selfish. Not at all. But we're in NYC, our parents are elderly and have health issues. Is it worth the risk of them potentially getting sick?
Ultimately we just decided yesterday to move it to next Fall. I can't tell you how disappointed I feel that our wedding won't happen in a few months as planned but I also feel relieved that the decision is made. I know in my heart that for us and our situation it's the right decision.
A lot of people say it's the marriage that's important not the wedding, which is 100% true. But you also want to look back on this day years from now with joy and great memories. Getting married to the love of your life and creating a life together is an amazing gift and should be celebrated the way you want. Take some time to really think about the pros and cons of rescheduling vs not. It's not an easy decision.

I agree with the PPs; if the idea of postponing makes you happier about it as opposed to social distancing / masks, then definitely postpone! You get to have the kind of day you want, so do what you and your partner want to do!

I was scheduled to get married 10/17/20 and we are going to be picking our new date this week with our venue for 10/2021. The stress of the unknown was just way too much for me and not knowing if guests could potentially get the virus while at my wedding. But I also didn't want a wedding that people would be scared to fully enjoy themselves at. Another idea we're doing is having a backyard ceremony on 10/17/2020 with immediate family and friends. That way we still have our special date and can still have the big party next year. I spent a lot of time reading everyones post and at the end of the day you have to do what is best for your situation and what will make you feel better. I know postponing my 160 person wedding makes me breathe a sigh of relief.

Yesterday they announced Ohio May have wedding receptions up to 300 effective June 1st as long as tables are six feet apart and no congregation. I was excited at first but the more I thought about it, this means no dancing, no group photos, staying at your seat, no socializing...it sounds so depressing. I’m really sad about it, I don’t think we will make any decisions until late July but I know I do not want my reception to be remembered that way.


I feel we should still have a wedding ceremony and a small intimate reception at a park shelter house or backyard with food catered and then do a big party next year...

View Quoted Comment Ugh. That does sound depressing. It basically takes all the fun out of weddings. Honestly I'm kinda over 2020 at this point. Its been so lame and depressing and pretty much zapped all the fun out of planning the wedding or even being excited about it. I officially postponed until April 25. It was not an easy decision lol. But I'd rather roll the dice and see how April is and have peace of mind until then. And now I'll get to have a Bachelorette party and meet with my vendors and have more time to get a dress since I haven't even been able to get one yet due to all of this. I am seriously so sorry you are going through this. Not to sound all sappy but you are not alone. This all sucks the big one hahah

View Quoted Comment I am afraid that because they’re allowing receptions like this, it would be more difficult for me to postpone without including some big fee...

View Quoted Comment Have your reached out to your vendors to see if they are cool with you postponing if need be? I reached out to mine like a month ago and just asked them if postponing was a possibility. All my vendors were super cool with it and there was no fees. I'm in California though so weddings aren't allowed yet. They probably will be in October but with restrictions.

View Quoted Comment I feel ya. I'm generally a pretty chill person that doesn't get very stressed and the unknown of all of this is just too dang much. Everyday I'm scouring the internet for answers and everyday there is nothing. I decided to postpone for April 25, 2021. Its like 11 months away so I figured I would start with that amount of time. I feel relieved but sad too. I'm kinda second guessing myself too. Its a hard pill to swallow. Ive been planning this wedding for 8 months already. Luckily my vendors are all super cool and I wasn't charged any extra fees. Good luck to ya. Hopefully we can have awesome wedding next year.

View Quoted Comment I asked them when we should discuss a plan B last month and they said they were working on current postponements and cancellations within the next month or so at that time. I plan to reach out again soon because I need to know what to prepare for.