Covid Brides, are you also feeling super sad?

I don't really have any tips for you other than I am sorry that you are having to deal with it all and I hope that at the end of the day you will be able to look back and be married to your best friend!

I totally feel this. While we haven't had to change things too much since we were already having a realitivley small wedding, I never would have guessed that we would be needing masks and stuff. The worst part of all this is having friends and family not be excited for us and say they arent coming due to COVID yet they never wear masks and are going out in public and taking trips all the time, some even to disneyland.

For real. Everyone is going through stuff and you'd think that it would make people more empathetic and kind but it makes people more selfish apparently. What sucks is that my FH lost his job in March so we could really use the $$$ and gifts to help out since we are getting a new apartment, but not a single gift has been bought and while i know its not about the money, that's how weddings go to celebrate and congratulate the couple you get them stuff to aid in their new life together. So yeah I'm pretty upset. Especially when a certain family member says they cant afford and are scared to travel, but then take their whole family to Disneyworld...ugh so rude

I feel you. We "eloped" in May on our original date because I didn't think things would get better anytime soon. We had planned the perfect wedding and pretty much had every detail worked out only to have everything unravel just two months before - after we had already sent out our invitations and it felt so close and so real.

We were only able to have our parents and a few close friends in attendance - my husband didn't have all his groomsmen with him, his sister couldn't come, and his parents wouldn't even hug us. That day was full of sad and frustrated tears, stress, and disappointment.

You'll see other brides say that their coronavirus wedding was still the best day of their life, but that wasn't my experience. It kinda sucked. But I'm 100% glad I married my husband and have no regrets about making that part happen, even when the circumstances were horrible and it didn't go at all like we planned.

Regardless of how you do it, marry your person. That part will feel amazing and important and so rich and wonderful and full of love, regardless of the pandemic, or who is there or what you are wearing, or whether a live band is playing music or it's coming from your smartphone. The rest may very well be someone else's dream, someone else's pandemic vision, but committing yourself to your person is incredible, even under awful circumstances. You and your spouse-to-be deserve that much.

Yes, I so resonate with your post! What we had planned for our wedding...what we thought the world would be like...the extreme uncertainty about when things might go back to normal...all of this...being worn down...someone else's dream / the loss of our own dreams about this big life event....YES to all of that. Just wanted to send a virtual hug and wish you the best of luck. It sounds like you guys are being cautious and prioritizing the health of yourselves and your guests. Not everyone is doing that, so you should be proud of yourself for taking the harder but safer route. You got this. One foot in front of the other. And your feelings are totally. 100%. valid.

I'm sorry you've been so down Sending you hugs from Seattle.

As little girls, we've spent SO much time daydreaming and thinking about this wedding planning and engagement, we just didn't take into account a potential global pandemic lol. It has been very frustrating and I made a comment to my FH about a week or so back, "It feels like I'm planning a funeral". Dramatic?...Yes, but it truly has been hard! I felt like I was the only one who truly cared.

All that to say, this too shall pass. I've been finding my strength in Jesus and knowing that His plans are to prosper me and not harm me. Even if I can't explain why THIS had to be my season, I'm still going to rejoice and be grateful because I've been given the chance. Maybe 9 year old Sola and Cierra didn't consider a pandemic, fine, but we are still well on our way towards marriage which, if you ask me, is far more sacred and worthy of our attention than the behavior and circumstances around us.

This too shall pass, I know the waves of emotion are strong but God is stronger and YOU are stronger. Praying for your peace today

I was feeling this way before my wedding, but my wedding was still the most magical day for my husband and I even with all the changes and cuts. The smaller guest count made it even better in my opinion. We were able to spend good quality time with each guest. We had the best day ever! Our family and friends who couldn't made it because we had to cut the list down were still very supportive and excited for us.

My best advice is: Remember why you are getting married. You get to spend the rest of your life with your favorite person in the world! These hard ships will only make you stronger in the long run

You are definitely not alone, and it's important to take the time you need to grieve over your wedding.

I've had many breakdowns over this whole situation, and my mom has cried watching us go through this. We got engaged in August of 2018 and started planning immediately, so changing a 2+ year vision was difficult.

But we're trying to focus on the positives -- actually getting married, spending a little less money, etc.

I also talked about my feelings A LOT with FH and my family, and I think that really helped me process and deal with things.

Omg that is so frustrating!! I'm so sorry!

I can't even imagine how it must feel. I am so sorry for you.