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Devoted October 2020

Covid Brides, are you also feeling super sad?

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Cierra, on October 1, 2020 at 9:11 AM

Hi everyone.

I just wanted to come on here and talk a little bit about my experience in wedding planning during Covid, but also just during the state of the world right now.

I don't know about you guys, but this wedding has changed so much from the dream that I had for it when I got engaged Christmas day of 2018. There are so many people who I love dearly who will not be there or involved in anyway, people who can't risk travel to be with us, people who have come from the woodwork to support us, and people I never expected to come being there front row, and honestly... All of it's got me feeling nothing but super sad. Like.. Super sad. All the time. I'm getting married on October 24th, and the last 2 months have been more worry and heartbreak about all the issues Covid is causing than I've ever dealt with before. Money, time, dropping guest count, food service having 5o be changed to adhere to new safety guidelines, not being able to travel or have tests for certain things done before hand due to safety, etc etc. Add some pushy parents on top of that, and I am worn down. I cry about my own wedding everyday. I legit wish we had just eloped months back. With my fiance being a type 1 diabetic, his health is top priority. Changing things wasn't even a question, but now it feels like someone else's dream? Does that make sense?
Please tell me other people out there are feeling this too? The only thing worse could be going through it alone. If any of you have any tips, or helpful advice on how to get I to a better mindspace, please share below. I'd love to read them. sincerely, a super stressed and sad bride to be

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Just Said Yes April 2021
Tanisha · on October 11, 2020 at 7:07 PM
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I totally understand & you’re NOT alone. I’ve been stressed & cried almost everyday dealing with the reality of covid & not having my dream wedding at this moment!! At the end of the day, it’s about my fiancé & I. I’ve prayed about it and placed it in God’s hands. My tip would be: continue planning your wedding whether it’s just the two of you or 50+ 🥰 & be safe! My wedding is 10/16/20 so it’s around the corner.
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Savvy June 2021
Amanda · on October 11, 2020 at 7:42 PM
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I totally understand how you feel. We were supposed to get married June 2020. When the shut down happened, I still had hope that things would go back to normal before June. As time went on, we decided to postpone till next year. We live in a state that had very high covid cases, which cause the quarantine to go even longer. Now I am trying to get back into finishing my planning, and I can't find any motivation. It hard not knowing what next summer will be like. I am trying to stay positive and my bridal party has been fantastic through this all. Here is to hoping 2021 will be a great year.
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Savvy October 2020
Destiny · on October 11, 2020 at 8:53 PM
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My wedding is the exact same day, and we are so heartbroken at how it’s turning out. Postponing is not an option, as both my step-mother and future FIL have terminal illnesses that will likely not see them past Christmas, and they desperately want to see us get married. Of course, this severely changed what our wedding is going to look like in order to keep them safe; but now we have so many people we love who aren’t able to come, including my brother (military) who isn’t allowed off the island he’s currently stationed on, but I always envisioned walking me down the aisle along with my father and doing a brother/sister dance with. I feel like we spent all of this money on what was supposed to be the large and expensive wedding of our dreams with all of the people we love and care about, and instead it’s a ridiculously overdone wedding for a small crowd. I’m worried it’s almost going to feel silly. We couldn’t even change our venue/location to a smaller venue without losing about $15,000. Everybody keeps telling me that it will be beautiful and perfect, but I’m pretty sure if it was THEIR wedding going down the drain, they wouldn’t be thinking, “wow, my wedding that’s nothing like my dream is going to be perfect!”. I hope your day turns out so, so much better than you’re expecting, and I feel all of the emotions you do, so you’re not alone, and don’t let anybody tell you it’s selfish or wrong to be upset!
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