covid Fatigue......

We have had to reschedule 3 times now due to Covid. Talk about fatigue....

(don't come at me for this, brides)

We are going ahead with our wedding - a normal one, not a Covid decorated wedding. Anyone who isn't comfortable is totally okay to not come, we will not be upset - but we are having our wedding. We've luckily, not had to deal with a lot of the postponing and issues that Covid has brought to a lot of brides. If for some reason we are not able to have our wedding the way it's planned, we will elope on our date and skip the whole traditional wedding ceremony!

I nearly had a panic attack one day thinking about spending all this time, energy, and money for a wedding that could get canceled at the last minute. Both my parents and my FHs parents are both super wary of Covid because some of our family members are very high risk. My parents seem to think Covid will be gone by December, and want to plan full steam ahead. But then I had the thought "What if December rolls around and we have already invited 100+ people, and then our parents don't come and its just aunts, uncles, cousins and friends???"
I would die of sadness. I love my extended family, but I am very close with my immediate family. My ultimate backup plan is to cancel the big wedding and have a small wedding with just our immediate families and closest friends. Same venue, same everything else, but with only 30 ish people there. That's how I am dealing with the fatigue.

5/15/21 here


So we booked everything in Feb/Mar 2020 before we were on shut down for COVID. And of course we expected it to not be a year long problem. We’re having our wedding as normal as possible with a few minor adjustments.
So my FH & I have masks to wear (mines an off white lace that matches my dress, his is black satin to match the tux), guests have to wear masks, & social distancing is require. Other small rules we’re enforcing is social distancing btwn tables, no more than 8 people per table, attempt to sit people from the same states together, and tell people to stay home if not feeling well/recently exposed. We are, however, choosing to ignore the “no dance floor” rule (bc I can totally dance with a mask on).
Only big issue is that we had to uninvite some people since we started with 120ish people and can only invite 88 (including us) to fall in our states 35% occupancy rule.

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I don't blame you, I'm feeling the same way. We just purchased some hand sanitizers we found at Target for $.50 each and we are ordering some disposable masks from amazon. Who ever comes comes and who ever doesn't it's ok with me.

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Honestly, this covid thing isn't ever going away. Not when the vaccine comes, not ever. We will get better at treating it and dealing with it, but waiting for it to go away is going to lead to disappointment for many

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Exactly! We just aren't dressing up a wedding with Covid attire. If you aren't comfortable gathering with people, you don't need to come! No hard feelings, but I'm getting married!

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I know that’s right! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

We want to take as few risks as possible, so we decided to elope.

19 days until I do! We had to reduce our guest list from 100+ to 50. The venue says masks are recommended but that they aren’t the “mask police”. About 3/4 of our guests have either had COVID or have been vaccinated in the last 90 days. I am going on business as usual. We are providing masks & hand sanitizers. We’re not going to go over the top with it though. If someone doesn’t feel comfortable, it’s fine. We are also doing a Zoom for the guests that can’t/don’t want to attend.

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I respect that

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That's a good idea!

Getting married 4/11/21 in PA and the struggle has been REAL. Mentally I was completely exhausted but now I’m excited. We can only have 50 but it is what it is! I started a petition and everything to open up occupancy for many reasons but the local government is t budging so I’m surrendering to the destiny of our wedding . That’s mantra helped me a lot.

We postponed once already, from 10/10/20 to 10/30/21. So we still have a decent amount of time to go and everything is planned. However, we won’t postpone again and our Plan B is to cancel everything and have an intimate wedding in Hawaii with 15-20 guests max. Then next year, we would have a vow renewal/1st anniversary celebration with our original 65 guests. I’ve already been in contact with a coordinating company in Hawaii and we will make a final decision in March or April. So, I’m excited about either plan!!!


Despite postponing and still facing an uncertain future, I don’t feel sad or tired or pissed or anything like that about the wedding. COVID-19 is completely out of my hands. So being upset would just be a useless waste of energy for me. Especially because I know we’ll still get married and it will be a great time either way!
So, I simply view all of this as part of our story. These happen to be the chapters about our engagement and wedding. Call me crazy (it won’t be the first time)..... but, only couples getting married in 2020 and 2021 will have this amazing story to tell about their wedding. So, I think it’s rather special!

We are getting married March 13th. Our already small guest list is even smaller due to people declining to come. We didn’t even know if we were going to be able to go forward with our wedding for reasons unrelated to Covid then decided we were moving forward and more than half our guests declined. It’s been one disappointment after another. It isn’t at all what I wanted and I never even wanted a big extravagant wedding. But we are getting married March 13th and I am happy for that.

Our date is 11-14-2021

Ive been planning since before COVID hit, and still continue to do so. I already had to postpone it from last year to this year, I'm not doing that again. We are getting married regardless, if some people dont want to come due to being scared or their health, well do a virtual part for them. we will do all the major precautions as we can but nothing is stopping our wedding from happening. I cant wait to marry my pain in the ass. lol

5/2021 wedding date

Signs are trending in the right direction, but COVID and its restrictions remain unpredictable. We will still have our wedding as planned and be as safe as possible with the things we can control. I feel like majority of people are more informed about COVID, have better access to testing & safety measures than the previous year. Regardless we will celebrate our big day no matter what it will look like

I've been feverishly following the news regarding the progress of vaccines and the downward trend in cases. Even though I hear constantly that things will be "closer to normal" in the fall, I know that's the most optimistic projection, so I know we're on the borderline for having a normal wedding. I think if push comes to shove, we will push out the date into 2022 sometime and just do a small ceremony at the courthouse on our original date (as some people I know have done). It's just tough continuing to try to plan as if the original date is going to happen when it's existing in a perpetual state of limbo. I just want to do whatever is safest for our guests.

It stresses me out a lot and I've shed tears.. Ours is scheduled 8/14/21. Only thing that would cause us to postpone is the Canadian border still being closed, as most my family is there. If its open and they choose not to come thats on them. We're hoping most of the COVID stuff will be more relaxed by then because vaccines should be more available.

April 5, 2020 in NYC shut down just three weeks prior. 50% deposit with my venue and my florist. My date is now August 15th (third date) and I am just so not into it. I am an older bride with elderly parents, one of whom almost died of COVID in the triage days of March. So I don't really want to keep postponing.

But I haven't a clue how to plan. My guest list was only 70 as it was. I am guessing my FH friends and fam from UK will likely not attend. I don't know when the vaccine will roll out.

I was excited about the vaccine as a game changer but now people are saying the vaccine doesn't make a difference.

It is all just so lackluster. I am tired.