covid Guest Reduction

I definitely wouldn't mention anything about a B list. In general it's considered rude. Some people wouldn't care but others might so I would just avoid saying B list at all. Just let them know that due to covid, you might have to downsize and if that's the case, you would no longer be able to accommodate. Let them know that you will keep them updated in case anything changes. I would personally call or send something to make it more personal.

I think people would be understanding of that in the COVID times! I agree with the previous comment, maybe don't mention the B list, but instead state that if anything changes, you'll let them know. Otherwise, this website has a good template for uninviting guests: https://theeverylastdetail.com/coronavirus-wedding-postponement-email-templates-to-send-to-guests/


I would send it the same method that you used to send invitations. If you mailed your invites, mail the uninvite letter. If you emailed the invitations, then send it by email.

We sent out a card with our picture and said “We’re still getting married but out of concern for the health & safety of our guests, we’ve decided to postpone the celebration til next year.” Or something along those lines. We never sent out an original save the date so the added expense wasn’t a big deal.
Best wishes to you!

I would send out all the invites and see how many respond first before you start uninviting. Even without covid it’s very rare that anyone has 100% of their guest list RSVP yes. You’ll be surprised, 15 guests may decline and do all the work for you. We just had our wedding last weekend and were in the same boat as you but ended up inviting 120 guests...only 60 responded yes so we didn’t have to have that hard convo with anyone. We did write a little blurb and send it in every invite saying that we were consistently staying in tune with the CDC guidelines and if we had to make changes to the guest list, we would personally call them to let them know. That way you don’t offend anyone. We were shocked at some people we assumed would absolutely come, who declined. And others who we didn’t think would could, ended up making the trip.

We sent out two separate invitations. Those who would be attending and the second one explained in light of COVID restrictions we would like for you to join us virtually (we streamed our ceremony and parts of the reception) our at home guest even dressed up and took pictures to share with us.

Soooo I’m in this boat. We postponed from April to September, and TODAY was the RSVP due date. Still have 20+ no responses. I already texted all my corworkers in a group text that said “ Hey friends, I’m sure you guys heard the update from the governor about social gatherings no more than 50. We are in the process of reducing our guest count by half, and are disappointed we can’t have you all celebrate with us. Thank you for understanding....maybe one day things will be back to normal.”


They understood. Older distant family members will get a note in the mail. Friends will be phone calls or texts.

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I like that idea. I originally thought that I would phone call my out of town family to see if they would be coming, if not, then I would start there. I really like how you texted the friends and such. I will probably do something along the same lines