Covid - ridiculously stressed out

I already postponed our wedding by a year and we are getting married October 17th with or without covid... If I have to dance outside and wear a mask I am marrying this man on 10/17/21! lol!

Girl, I feel you. While my family and friends are mostly vaxed, and some at least half, I’m still so nervous. Financially speaking it’s a bit of a nightmare. Our venue is outside, so that helps, and it’s next February- but still, we all saw what happened last winter.


“Stressed” doesn’t even capture the ridiculous feelings we are dealing with on top of the stress of wedding planning itself. While I would very much like to stomp my feet and whine like a little girl till I get my way, my adult self knows that, 1. Obvi that won’t change a dang thing, and 2. What ever happens we will be stronger for it.
Hang in there 💓

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the positive vibes!!!! Love it! Maybe things will get better over the next couple of months!

Yes stressed but trying to stay positive. My wedding is October 16 2021, outdoor ceremony and indoor reception, in CA. I’ve mandated vaccines to attend but even with that I’m sure a lot of people will freak out about breakthrough infections and decline. And who knows we may have to uninvite people. My bachelorette is next weekend and we are changing plans from doing indoor wine tasting to outdoor pool party at our Airbnb bc several people otherwise wouldn’t have attended/were feeling concerned about being indoors. Everything is changing daily and it’s very difficult to plan. I’ve decided we are not going to cancel and worst case scenario is that we only end up with 50-60 people instead of the 160 we were planning for and we have to wear masks at the reception. I’m definitely getting married no matter what but I don’t want people to get sick at my party, I don’t want people to feel uncomfortable and in an ideal world I want a big fun indoor unmasked party where I get to dance and celebrate with lol of my loved ones!

I am MOB and agree with everyone! I spin out when the news comes on. We also postponed the wedding to Oct 3rd 2021. We are in the South and numbers are crazy! I just ordered masks and hand sanitizer. I agree, we can't control a pandemic or people. Planning a wedding is stressful enough without all of this. I want this to be a wonderful day for my daughter and everyone! Well, hell or high water we are having a wedding. I am not ordering invitations a third time. Best wishes to all! Try not to stress!

You are not alone.ive had to postpone our wedding last year in april to september 16,2021.i am hella stressed and worried!its already difficult to plan a wedding and when you think about covid on top of this,its stressx100% 🤪. my FH and I talked about probably going to the city hall or getting married at home as a backup plan.At this point, I dont think I could wait another year to get married. At the end of the day,what matters most is you get to celebrate/marry the love of your life. It is totally up to you-provide masks and hand sani (which is totally nice) or require vaccinatiok status. I have heard some brides even require a negative covid swab 48-72 hrs before the wedding day. Goodluck!

We finally had to have the serious conversation of "what do we do?" Numbers here continue to climb, and my FH and his immediate family are all very high risk. We finally decided to require all guests to send proof of vaccination before they can RSVP for our wedding. Does that add additional steps/stress? Absolutely...but it's probably way less stress than finding out after our wedding that it was a super-spreader event and multiple people got COVID. We chose what we thought was right for us, so if people have an issue they don't need to come to our wedding.

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Vaccinated people are getting sick and dying so we need to stop with the divisiveness with all of that. Stop picking on the "unvaccinated." If you're keeping up the "vaccine" isn't protecting anyone so why people keep talking about unvaccinated people is beyond me. Just have your wedding and let people choose.

View Quoted Comment I think last I read, only around 0.8% of COVID deaths are vaccinated folks. You also have a much lower chance of even contracting the virus if you are vaccinated. The number of people dying per day in the USA right now is hovering around the same number as people dying from diabetes or Alzheimer’s.

View Quoted Comment That said, I completely agree with your stance on letting people choose and not picking on the unvaccinated.

I'm an OG COVID bride. My wedding was originally supposed to be March 2020, literally the week everything hit, and we had to postpone the wedding 5 days out. We're now on our 4th wedding date, which is three weeks out (August 22). We're requiring all guests be vaccinated at our wedding, because some of our family actually caught COVID from our original wedding even though it didn't happen and believe me, it is NOT worth the risk (you really don't want that on your conscience). But even with a much lower headcount, vaccines required, and ample spacing/hand sanitizer provided/etc. we're still very nervous.

Everything feels exactly like it felt three weeks out from our original wedding date. We're moving along assuming the wedding will move forward, but are starting to get questions from guests about whether the wedding will happen (just like last time) and restrictions are coming back to our area (we're in SoCal). Our current wedding date is exactly 17 months from when we should have gotten married, and it is SO incredibly frustrating that society's unwillingness to get vaccinated has put us exactly back in the position we were in when this first started. We did what we were told to do - we continually postponed, we got vaccinated, we put into effect all of the data-backed COVID restrictions that were recommended. And yet here we are, feeling once more like it could all be taken away, regardless of all the time and effort we've taken to keep people safe.

Same here! People are starting to decline coming to my wedding because of Covid! Which is totally fine with because I’ve said from the beginning if people are uncomfortable coming to my wedding please don’t come but it is making me so sad right now. I know a good portion of my guests are vaccinated but not all. I too have sanitizer and masks available. I’m in California and my wedding is all outdoors and it’s taking place in September! I’ve already rescheduled once from last September and I’m not redoing all this again! I just can’t! So I’m trying to be positive and whatever happens happens at this point but I’m gettin married and whoever can come will be there! I’m over it!

View Quoted Comment This👆🏻💯% Thank you for some positive perspective! What will be will be!

I'm an original May 2020 Covid bride (4 dates later, one elopement with just our sons, and now a vow renewal during the Delta variant/surge), my best advice is to remember that at the end of the day your goal is to be married. Try, try, try to be flexible about how that will happen. You'll be happier the more you let go and celebrate being married to "the one" - and less convinced that there is a specific way that should happen. All 2020 Covid brides are rooting for you and for magic on your wedding dates!

View Quoted Comment This is just scientifically incorrect. The only reason the pandemic is going on as long as it is and that breakthrough infections are occurring is due to the large amount of unvaccinated people. Vaccines prevent death and hospitalization and breakthrough infections are rare. 97% of cases are unvaccinated people. Mandating vaccines at your wedding makes it safer for everyone.

November 6 wedding date. 200 guests. No discussion of masks, we will provide masks and hand sanitizer if anyone chooses but 50/50 mix of vaccinated and non vaccinated. If people are afraid they can decline. Whoever is there it will be perfect. Don’t stress over what you cannot control.

View Quoted Comment The vaccine prevents serious illness but breakthrough infections are definitely taking place in high numbers. Nonetheless, it is happening where unvaccinated populations are high in numbers so it is being driven by them. I don’t care for divisiveness either but you should verify facts before publicly stating them or note they are personal opinions/beliefs.
Honestly, I commend all of you having a wedding this year. I have yet to pick a solid date of 2022 or 2023 because I don’t see the volatility of planning coming to an end in the next year or two. I see much more coming. Best of luck and, as others have said, it’s about the unity of two love above all else!

I'm super stressed as well! Our date is October 23rd, and I'm concerned about all the variants that are popping up. We're having a very small ceremony and reception (about 50 people) but I'm still worried that our venue will have to postpone if things continue to get worse. We've already had to postpose our wedding twice due to various circumstances- and this was even before COVID hit! Wishing all you lovely brides the best of luck!

Sarah,

My wedding reception was last week. I too felt this way - I was basically panicking for 3 weeks straight. Every time a relative asked me "are you requiring masks?" or "Is everyone vaccinated?", I took all day to recover from the anxiety. What I will say is that everyone knows the risks right now. We had a few last minute headcount drops from nerves which we absolutely supported. And those who choose to come are coming with the knowledge of all of this - there's nothing you, personally, can do to change the nature of the situation. You're doing everything right by providing safety precautions and caring about your guests. Everything else is up to them. I wish you a stress free few months leading up to the wedding! If it's any consolation, they are predicting that the Delta situation will hit its peak over the coming weeks and numbers should go back down from there.

Sara

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for this!!! Did you put masks and hand sanitizer out for anyone that wanted?