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Covid “uninvitation”

Emily, on January 19, 2021 at 1:02 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 2 8
Hey everyone!


Just looking for some advice on the wording of my “uninvitation.” For background, I was originally suppose to be married in July of 2020 with a guest list of 200 and we postponed until July 2021. Now that we’re getting closer and after talking to our venue, it sounds like best case scenario for this summer will be a max guest list of 100. My fiancé and I have decided we will get married this summer on the new date regardless of what number we’re allowed. We will simply be inviting our family and wedding party and a few potential friends depending on limitations. We will not be hosting another reception in the future nor doing any sort of zoom wedding on this years date. Of course, we will talk to everyone on a more personal level as able but we will be sending out an “uninvitation” to those we have to cut so it is clear. Wondering how this sounds...thanks in advance for your feedback!

“ Unfortunately, due to the circumstances of the continued pandemic and in order to comply with the regulations of our venue, we’ve made the difficult decision to drastically cut our guest list down for our July wedding. While we will not let the pandemic postpone our wedding ceremony and reception another year, our original plans will look a bit different to ensure the safety of all our loved ones. We hope you understand as we make this difficult decision to cancel your invitation. We hope to get together with you sometime in the future when it is safe to do so. Thank you for your love and support!

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on January 29, 2021 at 1:26 PM
  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    I recommend calling or video chatting with those uninvited due to COVID
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Your wording sounds great. Would it be possible to stream it to o those you’re uninviting?
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  • SLY
    Master January 2022
    SLY ·
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    I think your wording is great!

    Our friends had to drastically cut their guest list from +100 to 50. They sent cards through the mail with similar wording to yours, but also had a notification on their wedding website. They also spoke to people in person/over the phone/video call.

    Unfortunately, we were on of the few that they didn't speak to at all. No card, no call, nothing. We heard from a mutual friend that we didn't make the cut, which was pretty hurtful considering we had already spent a good bit on a wedding gift, and didn't even have the couple speak to us directly. So just make sure that you contact EVERYONE to avoid hurt feelings.

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  • Samantha
    Just Said Yes April 2021
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    I agree that it would be ideal to contact uninvited guests directly by phone prior to sending the un-invitation card or in lieu of sending it. If you do decide to send the card I would suggest changing the wording for "cancel your invitation" which sounds kind of harsh. I would re-word that sentence along the lines of, "We hope you understand as we make the difficult decision to reduce our in-person guest count to bridal party and extended family only."

    I also second that it would be nice to offer a livestream of the ceremony to the guests that won't be able to attend in person.

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  • Katie
    VIP August 2020
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    Hi Emily! Overall I think it is good. Two minor suggestions is to replace “drastically” with “significantly reduce” and remove the “cancel invitation” part. This is what we sent (see photo) as a sample. Good luck girlie ❤️❤️❤️Covid “uninvitation” 1

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  • Biaani
    Expert May 2021
    Biaani ·
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    I get it could be awkward calling someone to uninvite. what if you record yourself saying the message and send them the video? idk maybe that's what I would do. then when they reply I could give them a call to laugh it out or something lol

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  • Katie
    Dedicated May 2023
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    I agree with others saying that the wording on your message ("cancel your invitation") is a bit harsh and it would be best to make personal outreach to each uninvited household as well, preferably before sending these out. I get that it's a little uncomfortable, but I think you'll find that although your guests are disappointed, they will understand and appreciate you talking to them. They have undoubtedly heard of similar stories throughout the last year or so, and anyone who doesn't understand or tries to argue with you doesn't deserve to be there in person anyway. It also gives you a chance to chat with your guests about the specific circumstances ("Yeah, if we didn't cut our guest list we weren't sure how long we were going to have to postpone and starting a family soon is really important to us" or "Nana's not doing so well and we really wanted to make sure she could celebrate with us") and I think they will be even more sympathetic towards your reasoning in a way that isn't possible to articulate in a pre-written message.

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  • Jennifer
    VIP August 2021
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    If you take out the “cancel your invitation” part, it’s fine! Instead say something like “while we wish we could celebrate with you in person, please know we will be thinking of you as we celebrate, and hope we can celebrate with you.m sometime in the future.” Also, don’t include the word “Univitation” anywhere on it lol😂



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