Covid Wedding

We were very anxious and decided to cancel. Luckily we received deposits back and we will continue to have a ceremony with only our parents present. Many of our loved ones want to wait at least until 2022 to take the vaccine and to dine indoors.

I don't think we'll be out of the woods in May, but things will likely look a lot different.

If you can make it fully outdoors, you will probably have more luck.

That said, for peace of mind, you may want a Plan B.

We’re planning on getting married on 4/3/21 regardless. We do have a Plan B set up to be on the safe side though.

Our date is 05/15/2021 and we’re moving forward like normal pretty much. Our wedding was planned to be fully outdoors and somewhat smaller from the beginning, so I feel less nervous about that. We have 60 people on our invite list but I’m expecting around 50 will show up.

We eloped on our original date in May 2020 and postponed our bigger event to June 2021. Our vendor has already informed us that they don't anticipate us being able to have the wedding we planned with all of the restrictions in place, so we need to make the decision to cancel or postpone again. It's been very frustrating but we'd rather wait until we can have a mask free event with lots of hugging and dancing and no unnecessary risk to us or our guests. So now we are trying to figure out whether to cancel, push out to fall 2021 hoping we will have heard immunity and mask wearing will not be needed anymore at that point, waiting until 2022, or just postponing without setting a new date at this time. We never wanted to wait so long to have our wedding, and the constant stress of when we will be able to have our wedding and having paid a lot of money for something that might never happen has really been difficult. We've been together for years, are in our mid-late 30s (our parents are in their 70s and high risk), and we feel like we've put our lives on hold to actually be able to celebrate with people and we are just done with it and ready to move on.

Experts have already said the pandemic is not going to be under control by May. If the wedding is small and outdoors, it would probably be fine to keep planning… But otherwise I personally would postpone for safety and restrictions.

I would have a backup plan. Things maybe different by then, but I don't think it will be significantly different. I'm currently pregnant with my husband and I's first child and my husband hasn't been able to attend anything because of Covid and the doctor told me these restrictions will likely remain in effect until at least summer.

I think that there will still be restrictions but I do think that it'll be better than it is now. I would keep planning for the time being and make a decision in a couple of months.

Hey girl! I am right there with you! My wedding date is 5/1/21 in Virginia! I’m getting pretty anxious but not postponing right now. I have started considering a soft backup date in July/August. My fiancé thinks I’m crazy and that we will be able to have our wedding in May.... feel free to message me if you need a buddy. Sending good vibes your way

I’m with you! Our wedding date is June 12, 2021 in Massachusetts, where there are strict restrictions. I’ve lost almost all enthusiasm for planning at this point. People keep telling me that restrictions will loosen by June, but I’m not as optimistic and the uncertainty chews at me. I can deal with reducing our 100 person guest list, but I’m bothered by the idea of masks, no dancing, no bar, and a 9:30pm end time (which are the current restrictions here). Our ceremony starts at 6pm, so a 9:30pm end time would not provide enough time. The only thing that might help us is that our wedding is both outdoors and indoors. We’ve paid so much money already that we would lose, so postponing doesn’t really seem like an option either. I’ve tried to think positive, but it’s been hard.

View Quoted Comment It’s good to hear that you were able to get your deposits back. I am not comfortable with actually having the wedding in May but the venue will not allow us to postpone at this time again as it is still too soon to tell. My FH and I will come up with a plan B. Thank you and Congrats.

View Quoted Comment Hi Rebecca, moving fully outdoors is not an option for us, unfortunately. Although, We were already planning on having the ceremony outdoors. My FH and I will need to come up with a plan B. Thank you!

View Quoted Comment My FH and I will need to come up with a plan B. This postponement was supposed to be the Plan B. Thank you and congrats!

View Quoted Comment We have a guest list of about 90 but anticipate way less would come. Especially since I have family that would need to travel from CA, TX, and WA. Only our ceremony is outdoors as we do not have the option to be able to move the reception outdoors. We will need to come up with a plan B. Thanks, congrats and best of luck to you!

View Quoted Comment Hi Kari!! I completely understand. I am in my late 30’s and my FH in his early 40’s. We do not want to wait any longer to celebrate with everyone but do not want to put any of our loved ones at risk. We would postpone to the fall of this year but our venue is not allowing it at this moment as they say, anything could happen within the next few months. We do not want to loose our deposits and have to put down another deposit for a date that also may never happen. I wish you the best of luck. Congrats, and stay safe.

View Quoted Comment Hi Alli, We have a guest list of about 90 but anticipate way less would come. Especially since I have family that would need to travel from CA, TX, and WA. Only our ceremony is outdoors as we do not have the option to be able to move the reception outdoors. We will need to come up with a plan C as this postponement was supposed to be our Plan B. At the moment our venue will not allow us to postpone as they say, anything can happen within the next few months. Thank you and stay safe.

My wedding is set for June 13 and as of right now I’d prefer to postpone. A lot of our key players on my FH’s side are in TX, CO, and WA. We are getting married in NYC and currently live in TX. We got engaged in Nov 19 but only secured our venue and photographer before lockdown happened, have not been to NY since and a lot of the planning never happened.
Even though they are saying it’s possible that most Americans can be vaccinated by the end of June I feel that it’s too on the cusp. Even if people are vaccinated doesn’t mean our venue won’t have restrictions, NY has been very strict (smartly so). My FH’s family is from TX and has never been to NYC, we want our wedding to be enjoyable and filled with family memories so personally I’d love to wait until 2022 so we can show them around the city properly and take them to the sights they’ve always wanted to go to! We would be sad not to get married in 2021 but I feel like I just can’t take the anxiety of not knowing and all the “what if’s.”

Good luck to you!

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Hi Veronica, I am thinking the same. But we have to wait until months leading up to the wedding before our venue will allow us to postpone again, etc. They still think it’s too soon to tell. We will have to come up with a plan b again. But congrats to you and your hubby!!

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Hi Veronica, I am thinking the same. But we have to wait until months leading up to the wedding before our venue will allow us to postpone again, etc. They still think it’s too soon to tell. We will have to come up with a plan b again. But congrats to you and your hubby!!

View Quoted Comment Hi Yasmine, you are right. That’s what we are planning on doing and are hoping for the best. If restrictions are still in place, I’d actually be kinda relieved because then I know I can postpone the reception to a later time that is safer for all. Take care.