Covid19 and delta variant

I totally feel for you and please know that you are NOT overreacting in the slightest. 😔 I got married two weeks ago indoors, vaccines required (except for my flower girl and ring bearer, who are not old enough.) It was totally fine, guests felt secure knowing that everyone present was vaccinated, and we've not heard any reports of anyone getting sick (which was 100% my biggest stressor and fear.) We did cut our guest list down from 110 to 48, including vendors, to even further mitigate the risk. I should mention that we live in the suburbs of Philadelphia, and COVID numbers are pretty good here, especially in my county. It is so hard to know the right thing to do. I know that as the bride it was especially overwhelming to not only have to be the one in charge of the actual wedding, but also call the shots on the COVID stuff; people were literally looking at me for answers for EVERYTHING, including a rundown of how I was going to ensure their safety at our event (which is, like, so NOT what I signed up for, hahaha.) Whatever you decide to do, whether it's cutting the guest count or postponing your pre-wedding events or requiring masks, please know that you're doing the best you can. No one can predict what the coming months are going to look like, and no one knows how to do this. If anyone gives you a hard time, ignore it. I got some raised eyebrows about a lot of my decisions (like cutting the list and requiring vaccines), but COVID is no joke. Keeping yourself and your loved ones safe is WAY more important than someone's feelings being temporarily hurt by whatever you decide. Anyway, sorry for the ramble -- I wish I had any actual advice, but I just wanted you to know that I have 100% felt exactly what you described, and it was so hard. I wish you the absolute best of luck. It's going to be an absolutely amazing day, even if it looks a little different than what you originally pictured, I promise.

Hi we are October 10th 2021! I understand. Summer seemed really promising and Virginia has been enjoying being open. I’m worried and anxious that a lot of mandates and restrictions might be back soon and Fall 2021 will be in jeopardy again. My best friend’s wedding is in September 2021 and my own wedding October 2021, so I am anxious to see what will happen. No matter what we are not postponing though. We will carry on with what is possible.

Our wedding is in October… Vegas is a hot spot right now. Regardless of what happens, we are going to have our day, especially since we postponed from October 2020. Our venue can accommodate 125 at 25% capacity so our 100 person guest list won’t be a problem. What it comes down to is masks… ugh.

Yep, I'm in Sacramento and was scheduled for October 15. We are cancelling the date but are debating postponing or just eloping now. It kills me knowing how much money is just down the drain but I just don't know if even have the energy to deal with another rescheduled date. We been together 8 years now, have been engaged for 5, and already have 2 kids together so sometimes the big wedding seems silly anyhow.

My husband and I ate having our reception October 2nd & we aren't planning on postponing again at all. I don't see my state shutting back down again anytime soon honestly, even with the numbers rising. We're at the point where we honestly just want to get it over with now after already having to postpone, then cancel & start all over again.

View Quoted Comment I feel you! I have no plans to cancel either. I just really thought a month ago I would be able to have a big normal mask less wedding and I wasn’t stressed about covid and now I don’t know what it will be like. Where is your wedding and how many guests?

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your reply. I decided to invite the max capacity of our venue because I was so confident covid would not be an issue 😢 I kinda doubt my county would enact personnel limits again but I do think many of my guests might cancel. Good luck to us 🤞

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your reply. I’m happy to know I’m not alone. Fingers crossed 🤞

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your reply! I am happy no one got sick at your wedding! I would love to hear from more couples with recent weddings

I’m getting married 11/13/21 and the past two weeks have been awful for me. It seems like everyone I encounter reminds me the US is surging again. Then on top of that, they ask me what my plan is for when they shut everything down again and impose the strict New England restrictions. It’s honestly been such a struggle. In some ways I feel robbed of a true wedding experience because it’s been so up and down about whether or not we will be able to have our wedding. I completely understand the stress and anxiety!

I'm in November and it's been on my mind more lately. I luckily live in a state where the cases aren't going through the roof and it seems somewhat okay, but I am definitely worried about what will happen come November. Regardless, we are not postponing. If we have to cut or people have to wear masks, so be it I guess.

I’m in NJ and our wedding is October 9. We are not postponing and will get married even if it’s just the church. FH keeps saying stop worrying it will be fine. I sent the invites out. We are only having around 85 people though so that helps. And I’m sure some will decline. I’m almost hoping we have less people than that just to be safe.

View Quoted Comment It's in Maryland and right now the guest count is about 95. We just mailed out our invitations so I don't have a final guest count yet.

Right there will all of you. We also postponed last October. One PP said it best - I feel robbed, even with going forward this year. The anxiety is exhausting. Fortunately, our wedding is small and all of our guests are vaccinated (minus nieces who are too young and someone who has had anaphylactic reactions to flu vaccine in the past). We’re also not postponing again - we’re just ready to be done with it all. Hang in there, everyone! 💜

Hey Sydney,


My husband and I got married on July 4th 2021 from our postponed original date of 9/5/2020. To be honest our guest count was originally 125, then we cut it to 60, 50 attended . On our RSVP we had one mandatory covid question for vaccinated and unvaccinated. It went over extremely well with all guests. It also made our guests feel comfortable, since the last thing we wanted was a covid outbreak at our wedding . As far as the wedding went no one wore masks, those unvaccinated took a test 3 days before and sent us the results. Everything went smooth. We had ceremony and cocktail hour outdoors. Also, our venue was huge enough for plenty social distancing. Even the reception had an outdoor lounge attached, so tho it was an intimate wedding to accommodate the size of our guests there was more than enough room for comfort. Tbh having a good safety measure in place will help ease your mind your wedding day. The last thing you need to be worrying about is someone getting sick or faulting you. Otherwise do what you can guests will comply. People who want to be there will be there and support you no matter what.

Ok starting to freak out. I don’t care if masks will be brought back just hoping I don’t have to cancel reception. What is everyone hearing in your states? I live in NJ.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the reply! Did you cut numbers before or after inviting people?

View Quoted Comment I’m living in CA. I asked the owner of my venue and she seems to think our county is business friendly and it will be ok but it’s hard to say right now! I’m trying to stay calm bc it’s out of our hands..

View Quoted Comment Yes it’s hard not to feel robbed! Why can’t we have the normal bride experience like all pre- March 2020 brides?? We also mandated vaccines for all adult guests which makes me feel better but not great with rising breakthrough infections.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for sharing!