Covid19 and delta variant

View Quoted Comment Yep I invited 202 thinking everything was going to be totally fine by October but I have found myself being happy when I get more declines.

View Quoted Comment Agreed I have no desire to postpone! I just want to marry my fiancé and get started on having a family!

My wedding isn't until March 2022 in Central California but I am feeling the stress and feel for you guys. It seems to me any time the wedding is brought up- thats all my family can talk about. I was even called irresponsible by my mother for planning on having the ceremony indoors ( The reception is outside.)

I am freaking out about the possibility of it being cancelled since we are military and are moving to a different state right after the wedding. It would be a huge financial blow for us as we cannot reschedule feasibly.

View Quoted Comment Wow when did you decide to cancel?

View Quoted Comment Agreed and happy to at least have this forum to vent about it and know I’m not alone.

View Quoted Comment My fiancé and I actually LOVED an outdoor venue but my mother nixed it bc she said it would be too cold for guests if we had an outdoor evening wedding in October and too much risk of rain. I’m wishing I hadn’t listened to her now! I think March 2022 should be good though. I am very hopeful numbers in CA will start to decline once vaccine mandates come into effect. All state employees and employees and students at UC and CSU system have to be vaccinated by august 15 or they can’t come to campus and I feel like that has to have a big effect.

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I sure am hoping. We have the space at our venue to switch to an outdoor ceremony but I just don't feel like making that decision yet since the world seems to be changing on a daily basis. Fingers crossed that with new mandates and any boosters that things will have some semblance of normalcy.

View Quoted Comment Same on all fronts 😞 And I’m already tired of people asking me if I’m worried about Covid/am I still moving forward. It takes everything in me to not respond in a snarky/sarcastic way. Of course I’m worried and of course I wish we had more options.

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It really is nice to have people going through the same things! All of my friends got married pre-covid. Now its my turn and they all keep saying things like "Its not a big deal if you have to downsize" or "So what if you can't have a dance floor" but if things were reversed it would be a big deal to them. Its easy to brush things off when its not going to directly effect you. They honestly dont understand the amount of pressure and stress. brides during covid have.

We started talking about it when we heard that LA county was requiring mask mandates indoors again, so around the 18th.


For me, there's no way I'd spend a dime more right now or sign another contract (we were just getting quotes from MUAs for 9 people) to go through with our indoor wedding in October in my area (Sacramento, California). The Governor just ordered mandatory vaccines or weekly testing for all State employees (which I am) and I'm already vaccinated.
I cannot imagine that there won't be some sort of indoor gathering restrictions back in place soon if the numbers continue to increase (as they are expected to since we haven't hit the peak of this wave yet). Even if they're not mandatory, I wouldn't be surprised if the venue decided to impose their own restrictions. And then there's still the question of... Will people come?
I could be entirely wrong of course, but I just don't feel comfortable moving forward. And for those of us in California and most other blue states, we can't compare ourselves to what's happening in other parts of the country or what responsive actions their state or local government will take. Our threshold of infection rates to take mitigating actions is a lot lower in California than many other states.

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Agreed - I am turning 35 in August and I am among the last of my high school and college friends to get married. I don't want to downsize because 1) it feels like I've been waiting forever to finally meet Mr. right and get married 2) at this point since nearly everyone I know is married, everyone has a plus one, so it's really hard to cut the guest list and 3) I am a huge extrovert/social butterfly and I LOVE big parties. Really trying to stay calm and hope for the best.

Also, I just wanted to add that all of our vendors have been willing to let us reschedule for next year. All of them have said they've been watching/following the news just like we are and are disappointed, frustrated, etc, right along with us. 2 of our vendors are from our original date (so they've let us reschedule 2x now) and the others I just got in April when we thought that our October date would be okay. My caterer actually even said that he's not taking any new dates for 2022 to give his 2021 brides the availability to reschedule first.


So it might be worth inquiring to find out.
For us, we're just debating now if we even feel up to rescheduling everything. For us, having rescheduled once already, and being together for 8 years and having 2 kids, it feels borderline ridiculous to postpone again. All of our vendors have confirmed that we'll only lose the deposit if we cancel, so it's not as bad financially as we thought it might be originally. (We'd actually have money coming back to us since we've already paid the venue in full and half of the catering total.)

Request everyone get shots or mandate masks. Remember you have enough to worry about with planning - try not to stress too much about the uncontrollable. Just control what you can - and that's ensuring your guests are safe.

View Quoted Comment This. I hope less people come and I’m only having 85.

I don’t think they will totally shut down, but guessing masks will be needed. We’re going to have school open up and CDC is suggesting masks for school. Since I work in one, yes I’ll be wearing it and have no problem with that.

View Quoted Comment Did everyone see the news today? CDC is now requiring masks indoors for any area of high transmission (basically the entire US) even for vaccinated people. 😷😭

I was supposed to be married on May 2, 2020. Obviously, that didn't happen, so we postponed to December 5, 2020, which, obviously didn't happen. We then rescheduled for October 16, 2021. I can not even think about the possibility of having to reschedule this wedding. I am so, so frustrated.

View Quoted Comment That’s my wedding date too!! I can’t even imagine how you must feel with postponing so many times. I am trying to stay hopeful that cases will go down again like they are in the UK and that the mask and vaccine mandates will make a difference by fall 🤞

Ugh I so feel you guys. My FH and I have been together now almost 15 years and engaged now for 5 and had to move our date from December last year to 12/4/21. During that time last year our venue was limiting events to 25 people or less(which would basically be our wedding party), no dancing and masks required which to us seemed pointless. Now that we have the vaccine I don't know that they would limit it as much but we also have so many people coming from all over the place- half of my bridal party is planning on coming from out of state and there is always the possibility that there will be travel restrictions. Since we have already waited so long anyway, part of me wanted to push it out further to be on the safe side but it turns out that our venue(that we are totally in love with) will be closing for good about a month after our current date, so if we did have to reschedule we'd have to start the venue search over again and hope that another place would have some dates open. It's crazy because I have been through the planning process with many of my friends pre-covid life and seeing how stressed out they got about everything, I was determined to be a chill bride and do my best not to stress about normal wedding stuff. But there's just no way that you can not be stressed about this sort of stuff. I really like the idea that a few people mentioned about asking attendees to get a test right before. It would be a bummer if someone tested positive and could not attend but it would be way worse if they ended up getting a bunch of other people sick.

View Quoted Comment Before, thankfully! But after I had already asked for everyone's addresses. 😕