Cowboy hats?!?

Is it formal, semi-formal, cocktail, casual, or what?

It is a black & white invite. My dress is really formal (I think). I just don't want to hurt his feelings.

Oh sorry the venue is formal. Sit down dinner, etc.

Like ball gown formal or cocktail formal?

Are the guys wearing tuxes or just suits?

Guys are wearing a tux. My dress is mermaid with a train. I'll have veil etc. I would say ball gown formal.

Tell him it isn't going to work out. Maybe do a trash the dress shoot or something and wear cowboy hats there? You could do a collage of a tux and a cowboy hat and show him it would look ridiculous

I agree that the hat probably isn't going to go with the theme of your wedding. Sorry I don't have any suggestions to make him ahppy though.

My FH is a Cowboy..! So I have no problem with him wearing his cowboy hat.. We are having a rustic wedding.. And I want him to be as comfy as possible..!

I say that if the hat fits his personality, is "him," then you can figure out a way to make it work. A nice black felt hat?

Maybe you could compromise. Hats off during the ceremony and they can wear the hats in some photos and some photos without the hats.

FH loves fedoras, he and his groomsmen plan to wear them in some of our photos and maybe here and there for the reception, however we've agreed hats off for the ceremony & in some photos.

It COULD work--but the guys would have to wear very nice either black or white hats. In college we had balls in which the men were allowed to wear tuxes with their hats and the women wore ball gowns. It still happens to raise money for the Ag clubs there. The best look for formal would be felt, not straw hats. The only problem there is the guys will be sweating so much in the August heat they could pass out.

Ask him why he is so set on wearing his hat. If you guys are outside very long,, he could be worried about burning his head (I don't know what your elevation is, but its a real issue the higher the elevation). If he just wants to wear it, give him two options: wear felt hats (thus causing heat stroke) or don't wear one at all because it interferes with the look of your wedding. You can decide if he can wear it at the reception or not.

It could work. We're having a semi-formal ceremony but a very laid back reception. FH wants to wear his cowboy hat so were doing something like the pic below, but with a tie instead of a bow tie. It still looks dressy without looking too "hokey". My only request was that him and the BM get a nice black hat and have it professionally shaped and cleaned before the big day.

*edited for spelling*

Thanks as always ladies. I also told him that he would need to get a new one as well if we decided to go with the hats. I'm going to look for more pictures online and see how it looks.

@soon2beMrs.Cullen- I like it! Yes I don't want something to "honkey" LOL. I am okay with the hat because its who he is, I just want it to look right for our pictures and I want to make sure it is appropriate.

I just officiated an indoor wedding where the groom & his guys (including 3 little ringbearers) wore purple shirts, black jeans, and black cowboy hats.

Try very hard to make this work, please-- this is his wedding, too.

@Zoe I want to make it work for him as I am a true believer that it is "our" wedding not just mine. I got some good advice about the felt hats. I'm going to look at some more pictures and see what we can do.

Bring'm but do not wear them during the ceremony, is my suggestion.

From a photographers stand point hats during the ceremonies can be really tricky. Depending on the lighting they can often obscure the grooms face and especially his eyes. so any emotion he may be expressing as he sees you, as he says his vows, may be lost in the shadows... Though the pictures can be fun with the hats and there is nothing wrong with hats at the ceremony, especially if it is outside, make sure that your photographer knows about the hats so they can be prepared for the lighting!!!

@Desiree I didn't even think of that! Thank you so much! I will deff. speak with our photographer and see what she says. I wouldn't want his eyes hiden.