Coworker Bridesmaids

Did she suddenly change personalities? She must have been at least a bit like this before? There isn't much you can do other than ignore her.

View Quoted Comment No she was never like this 6 months ago and that may sound crazy but it’s honestly true.

Keep in mind this is YOUR day not hers don’t let her ruin this special moment and the happiest day of your life. My opinion I would replace her with someone who will be there for you and not think about her self. Or I would just simply reminder her that it is your day and it’s not about her. Good luck to you 🥰

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It stops being just about her when she involves other people. For instance her bridal party, who have thoughts, feelings and needs. A spot in the bridal party is meant to honour them, as opposed to a job with a title.

The OP works with these people. How do you suggest replacing her and still having everything be fine with everyone else. Replacing someone is a very public slight, and can end up making the bride look terrible. I would really caution against doing that.

View Quoted Comment The wedding party is supposed to honor the bride and groom on their big day bc it is their day no one else’s if they can’t respect that then they shouldn’t be apart of it. These people will be in all of their pictures, the last thing a bride wants is to regret having someone apart of it. I’ve had to replace someone in my own and the rest of my bridal party respected it bc it’s my choice it’s my day. I don’t want to look back and think “I shouldn’t of had this person bc in the end she wasn’t even there for me” and looking at the pictures would be a constant reminder.

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The wedding party is a chance for the couple getting married (not always a bride and a groom) to honour those people that are closest. It's a chance to truly recognize the importance of their loved ones. It is NOT meant for the wedding party to do wedding planning jobs. The idea is they get their dress/suit and stand in photos.

Your solution of replacing someone is not realistic. I don't know what would be worse. Looking at photos or working in an environment where you've kicked someone out of your wedding party then having to face them. Every day. It would be rude to replace her, that's just a fact.

View Quoted Comment She asked for our opinions and I gave mine simple as that. I work with the girl I replaced and we are still friends just depends on acting professional. You have your opinion I have mine. She asked what we would do not for us to criticize what someone else says. You do you and I do me 🥰

Given that you’ll still have to see this person at work after, I would try to imagine, even make a list if that helps, how horrible you’ll feel if she’s still in the bridal party and she’ll be such a big part of your day despite any drama, and how awkward it’ll be to see her at work. Go with what would be the more manageable situation. Without examples of what exactly she’s been doing, it’s harder to weigh in. Have you talked to her at all yet? Maybe ask her to grab coffee and as a first step just let her know that you’ve been feeling hurt by her actions. Maybe she doesn’t even realize.

I know people keep bringing up having someone in your photos. If this is a concern, and you choose to keep her in your wedding party, just make sure she is at the end of all group shots – it will be easy to Photoshop her out of pictures if you choose to later.

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You replaced a coworker? That usually doesn't end well, but yeah, I guess you'll do you.