Coworker Invite/no Invite

When I calculated the cost per person.. it became very easy for me to not invite my coworkers 😂😂

It is absolutely OK to only invite the one person who is your bridesmaid. However, I would be careful to not insinuate or let others infer they will be invited. If you know for sure you will not be extending an invitation, I would make it known immediately. The longer you drag it out, the more awkward it is going to be when you don’t invite them.

It's 100% ok to not invite your other co-workers, especially if you don't hang out with them socially.

View Quoted Comment Lol - no seriously!!! Here with you on this!

I definitely agree! I had this exact same issue. With specific people I wasn’t inviting. However, I invited my entire team and some additional people. It’s nothing personal but I’m not as close with all my coworkers to invite them all. At least not to my wedding.

Don't engage in talk about the wedding at work -- even with the friend who is a BM. Since you're friends, you should have plenty of opportunities to discuss it outside of the office. If other coworkers bring it up and/or ask you about the specifics, keep it vague, and plant the idea early that it will be "smaller", "mostly family and our closest friends," etc. Do all you can to avoid giving people the impression that they will be invited, but if someone is rude enough to ask specifically, be honest (e.g., "unfortunately, no, we can't invite everyone we'd like to") and then change the subject! Just because people "want to be invited" doesn't mean you need to invite them....

Its totally okay to only invite who you want from your work. I'm inviting my team, and an extra person from another department who I am close with, but that's it. In fact, we have a new team member joining (who I have not met) who's first day is going to be about the same time that my invites are going out/will already have gone out. This individual is not being invited. Even though they will be a part of my team, I don't know them, or their relationship status (would they need a plus one? no idea!) and I had a little guilt about that at first but my fiancé gave me the same answer as yours - its totally okay to not invite everyone.

I have people asking at work about it, because we all went into quarantine for 2 years and when we started working back in the office 2 days a week, I suddenly had quite the sparkler on my finger. Don't feel bad at all. Unless you have a massive budget and can invite hundreds of people, there are just some who aren't going to make the cut and that's okay!

And if anyone throws an attitude and is suddenly treating you badly because they aren't being invited, then know that you were correct and they shouldn't be - because that's not the kind of energy you need on your wedding day.

Do you socialize outside of working hours? If not, don’t feel obligated to invite everyone else. Mail the invitation to her home and don’t mention the wedding at work.