Crazy stocker ex girlfriend

I agree with @Kmess. You need to document everything. Since she has Asperger's, maybe talking to he parents might be a first step before going to the police. Does your FH have a way to contact them to explain the situation? If they don't want to do anything, then I would escalate it to the police.

Also, I'm sorry but I'm cringing that you're calling Asperger's a mental handicap. It's on the Autism Spectrum but many people with Asperger's are highly functioning. Although the stalking may be a symptom, I just hate the term 'mental handicap' and find it offensive and degrading.

She is just showing up at his work more now. I called my FH and he agrees with all of you. We are calling the police after he gets off work. Thanks for all the advice.

Wow! I would say y'all also need to get a security guard for the wedding!! Just to be safe that she doesn't find some way to show up!!

P.s. You might wanna edit the title so people don't keep commenting on the misspelling

Ashley: just because you don't like the term, doesn't make it wrong. I think she said it the politically correct way (as opposed to mentally retarded, which isn't okay). What term would you use to make it less cringe-worthy? Just for everyone's general knowledge.

My daughter has Asperger's and I know she knows that those actions are not okay so that isn't an excuse. In addition to contacting the police, I would reach out to her family but more importantly I would reach out to Facebook if her friends are contacting you via Facebook. It sounds like maybe people are making new profiles to get around the blocks and I am fairly certain that is not okay. Good luck, I hope you figure out a way to get this girl to back off.

As PP's have said, document everything. Though honestly, unless she's making threats or otherwise has done something to make you legitimately fear for your safety, there's not much the police can/will do for you. But good luck to you!

Hold on a fucking minute. Aspergers is not a mental handicap. Handicap is not PC anymore. Number 1.

Also why haven't you contacted the police.

I would love a stocker in my house. I need to reorganize

Beatrice: You mentioned the word "anymore". Do you know what is the PC wording?

Asperger's is NOT the cause.

The police CAN call her and tell her not to contact you anymore.

What is your venue like? Hiring security for the day is not a bad idea; they can be on the lookout for her and ensure uninvited guests don't get in, but that's really probably way past where you need to be handling this in the here and now.

And, document EVERYTHING.

As others have already said, don't contact her. Document EVERYTHING in detail, and call the police.

By the way, Asperger's has nothing to do with this scenario. Let's not contribute to stereotypes that people living with Asperger's already deal with.

I think "intellectual disability" may be the most PC term? I work at an office that serves people with all types of disabilities, that's what we would say.

I would call the police .... also there shouldnt be any way for her to know the when and where of the wedding

I have met many adults and worked with several kids with Asperger. It might or might not have something to do with this situation. I had a 7 year old who followed me every where snuck out of the class room and even tried to force himself into the women's bathroom to continue the interaction, I had to firmly tell him that he needs to go back to the classroom and he did. I find that the younger they are the more trouble they have. Most of the older people I know who have Asperger's you can barley tell or not at all. But I have had contact with a guy who had very little self control and I could tell right away that he was on the spectrum. Its sad when someone who could live a healthy, productive life are not taught how to deal with life, just because they have Asperger's.

I would contact the police, they can tell her to leave you alone without the restraining order or arresting her, hopefully she will understand and leave you alone.

"intellectual disabilities” or “cognitive disabilities" are the PC term.... they have changed it several time within the past 5 years.

I agree restraining order! Be safe and it really sucks that you even have to worry about this during a joyous time :/

Speaking from the standpoint as someone who was stalked by the FH's ex: DO NOT engage. Report it to your local police as a non-emergency. The more you do anything but report it, the more you fuel the fire.

Definitely get a restraining order

Thanks! When I was studying Aspergers in college (around 2010), "mentally handicapped" was still pretty PC. Crazy how fast that changes. I'll definitely use the terms you've suggested in the future.

Hammie: Uhm, no. No thank you. My intelligence is not at all disabled. It is a social disorder. Period. Social.