Dad and step dad-advice

I think that having your dad walk you down the aisle and dancing with your step dad is a nice way of splitting the father of the bride traditions

I can relate, my mom and dad divorces when I was about 5 years old and my mom has been with my stepdad since I was 13. He taught me how to drive, helped me get my first car, bank account, all those things. I love my real dad too of course but certainly want to include both. I am having them both walk me down the aisle. I’m sure how I’m handling dances yet but I know I can’t chose one or the other for the walk so I’ll do both!

I've also seen it where the bride walks halfway down the aisle with one dad and the rest of the way with the other.
Then they shared the daddy daughter dance. I think it was a medley of 2 songs so when it kicked into the next song they switched out.

Go with the first part: Bio dad walks down isle, Stepdad has dance.

Explain your thought process to both- pref when a three of you can sit down alone- and tell them this way the 2 VIP men can help get you to your VIP #3 guy... You want them each to feel special and thought that the bio dad doing the giving away of his little girl and first being seen by everyone would make sense, ESPECIALLY since you and stepdad always dance together.

If theh see how you’ve thought it through and that it’s important to you to do it this way, I’m sure that, if they love you, they will Honor this request.

My Grandfather was supposed to walk me down the aisle as this was VIP to me, and the dance was with my dad- as I recall dancing w/him when I was super little... sadly my grandfather died and won’t be the one to walk me down- my dad will do that and dance, but I’ll be in lilac heels to represent the walk my grandfather would’ve done- as lilac was his favorite colour!

I think you should follow your gut. It sounds like you've figured it out

I love your idea and I agree with the other PP I would definitely discuss your plans with them prior to the wedding and putting it on the website.

I totally get what you are going through. I don’t really talk to my dad or my step dad and my mom is now remarried (lol I don’t know what to call him 😂) I was so conflicted with walking down the aisle, who’s giving me away, all that stuff. One of my brothers is our officiant and the other is walking me down the aisle and my grandpa will give me away. If I decide to do a father daughter dance I will have everyone come up for a little bit. So I would probably start with my grandpa, then my dad, then step dad, then my moms husband, and then maybe also with my brothers and then just end up with my fiancé. That’s if I decide to do it. I might just want to skip the whole thing together but there definitely is a way to incorporate everyone

View Quoted Comment My dads ex wife (the one he married after my mom) is still a huge part of my life and I’m close with her boyfriend so I totally know what you mean!! 😂 still call her my step mom though!

View Quoted Comment Right! Yeah I call my dad dad and my step dad my step dad (my moms ex) but then when I get to my moms husband I’m like mmmmm not sure what to call you 😂

I honestly think that giving them each their own moment with you (birth-dad walking down the aisle, step-dad dancing with you) is the best way to go.

I agree! Giving both of them special moments would be super sweet

I am in the same situation. I don't want to hurt anyones feeling as they are both a big part of my life. I could tell my real dad was upset when I had mentioned sharing my arm down the aisle. I think what I will end up doing is having my real dad walk me down the aisle and when we get down at the end have my step stand up and them both give me away. I would also include a special dance for each and they were both excited to think of songs to dance too.

View Quoted Comment I love this!!!