My dad has advanced Alzheimer's and will not be able to attend my wedding. My mother is his primary caretaker but will have help from professional caretakers so she can attend my wedding which will be out of town. I've thought of asking my mom or my oldest brother to walk with me, but I don't know how to decide between them, they both mean the world to me. I worry that it may cause my mother pain to walk me down the isle; that it might just be too much for her to be reminded that though my dad is still with us, he is not "with" us anymore.
I'm hoping my father and I can share our "first dance" if he has a good day before the wedding and record it to play it at the reception while I dance with each of my four brothers. I am trying to think of ways to include my mom but not overwhelm her in addition to the daily struggles she already goes through loving and caring for my dad in his declining condition. Any suggestions?
